Your situation is a bit different than mine as with a FED spouse you can have your cake and eat it too wrt benefits. When I married (now divorced), the plan was for me to FIRE at 50 instead of my original goal of 40 as we allowed some lifestyle creep ("happy wife happy life"... or not
) and she would follow 10 years later around 50 as well. Having a second income/benefit path would make it a no-brainer for me to leave. As it happened, my stable career allowed her to jump career tracks several times and she is in great shape now and probably already close to FI in her mid 30s.
One question, have you withdrawn from TSP yet (particularly SEPPs directly from), if so, how as your experience been? Looks like it will be reported to the IRS as qualified and I won't need to worry about screwing it up. My only experience directly with TSP was taking out a loan (to manage taxable income) and I found the customer service experience to be horrible.
Thanks