When spoken by a woman to her husband, the word "fine" usually means anything but.
The word "fine" was mine, not hers.
...I assume you've looked at health insurance costs for yourself or do you get that through DW?
You need to figure out what you're going to do with your time after ER. Will you be fine with DW at work? What will you be doing while DW is at work?
DW's employer-provided health insurance is not very good. We have not looked in detail at health insurance costs. We just assume an annual premium cost of $20,000 for the Supremo/Platinum coverage option. Not sure why we came up with that figure, to be honest.
As for what I'll do while DW is at work, I have hobbies. My OP mentioned that I play guitar (and piano). I work 10+ hours a day now and I don't have a whole lot of time to practice the guitar. RE will free up a whole lot of time for practicing. Eric Clapton, watch out!
...What I'm saying is that, when our nest became empty in 2009, she probably felt the same as I described that I'd feel if I retired before her...lonely, bored, useless.
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So, for me, I'd rather stay engaged at the office than retire to an empty, lonely house...
I appreciate your response. But DW's and my mindset is not the same as yours. We can't imagine staying with our jobs if we had the means to leave it all behind. I honestly don't think I'll feel lonely, bored or useless. I have my hobbies, and, being an introvert, I can be comfortable living inside my head during those moments when I've nothing to do.
You despise your field, but love your work. This is rather confusing.
H-1B visa. There is rampant age discrimination in my field. In my field, you're "too old" when you've reached the age of 35. Plus I never had the desire to get into management.
Update re DW: She is now, without me mentioning it,
encouraging me to RE. There's just one condition - she doesn't want me to sit on my buttocks the entire day. You see, I'm quite sedentary now - I drive 2+ hours round trip to work every day, sit on my behind at work for 8+ hours (only getting up to use the boys room and for lunch, which I eat at my desk), then come home to sit some more because I'm so tired. DW wants me to promise her that if I RE that I'll go out every day - whether it's to a park or just for a walk. She doesn't want me to be idle 100% of the time when I'm not doing chores. That's a condition I can live with. The thought of getting healthy is very appealing to me.
But I'm now a little nervous. I listen to financial news every day on my long commute to work, and I hear that the yield curve is flattening. I've learned that when the yield curve inverts, that usually signals a recession. I really don't want to RE into a recession. And, as you know, it's difficult to walk away from a higher-than-average salary. I don't know yet. Maybe the answer is to find a low stress job near home to at least get the health insurance. (Did I mention my DW's employer-provided health insurance is crap?)
Anyway - thanks for all the feedback. I appreciate it.