I've heard a lot on both sides of that debate. Thankfully the issue never came up with my father's care facilities.Wow that is very troubling! In support of the general decline, we found MIL with many unexplained bruises while in a full care facility, so I think that is not unique to living alone. We alway questioned the staff and no one could recall how they happened. We are pretty sure she was punished by the staff for being incapable and also mouthy.
I tell people that my drinking days are behind me, and that I consumed my lifetime quota in the submarine force.As for me, I just will not drink any more even if people think I'm a little weird and wonder why I don't. My avoidance of alcohol is not due to religious conviction (I am agnostic and was brought up Presbyterian, and believe me Presbyterians drink). It is also not due to personal alcohol addiction. I never drank a whole lot, although I have a family member who is alcoholic and therefore does not drink any more. Everyone else in my family drinks.
It's a little surprising how quickly people accept that justification without any questions.
To those few who scoff, I respond that I'm saving the calories for chocolate.