This link might be of some assistance to the OP & spouse:
https://www.sepsis.org/education/patients-family/sepsis-survivors/
I appreciate your post and will be thinking positive thoughts in your direction.
We also recently had a reminder that health is uncertain. It wasn't me or DH, it's our sister-in-law who is DHs brother's wife.
A few weeks ago she became short of breath. It had happened to a lesser degree earlier but suddenly it got awful. Turns out it's lung cancer. She has never smoked. The doctor called it Stage 4 but so far they have not found other sites. She is expecting chemotherapy and a long struggle but they are ready to take on whatever is needed.
Of all the DH's siblings and spouses she is one of the youngest. They live in NJ, outside NYC so they are in a good area for medical care. Her family is close by. Their 2 daughters are adults and her oldest is 29 and in a steady relationship with a guy the whole family loves. I'm hoping that she can get through this and see her daughter get married and I'm crossing my fingers that maybe she'd have a grandchild!
So yes, life is uncertain. And I wish they were in the UK because here in the USA they will meet their deductible for 2020 and certainly again in early 2021!
Closet_Gamer, please keep us posted on her progress.
Considerably worse than my own bout with sepsis, (which was the worst thing I've ever experienced), and I thought mine was bad enough - be on the lookout for PTSD though, which is apparently not an uncommon after effect......my own experience with it was mercifully short lived, (depression, anger - though thankfully mine was internal and not directed at DW).
Good luck!
This link might be of some assistance to the OP & spouse:
https://www.sepsis.org/education/patients-family/sepsis-survivors/
Remember also that not at anytime were you worried about going bankrupt, or whether some insurance company would deny the life saving efforts of the NHS.
Thank you to everyone for your kind responses and well wishes.
The most amazing thing happened last night.
Yesterday I dropped off an ipad mini in an easy to hold case. Last night DW's best friend in the US called me in a bit of flutter saying that DW was texting her. She initially thought I might have been playing a bad joke.
Nope. DW had opened imessage, clicked the right chain, & texted her. Her friend called her back on Facetime. DW can't speak due to the tube, but they connected for 20 minutes.
Her first step back towards normality. She reached out to friend.
Amazing.
that is so cool! Wonderful news!
Thank you! Super helpful.
Thank you to everyone for your kind responses and well wishes.
The most amazing thing happened last night.
Yesterday I dropped off an ipad mini in an easy to hold case. Last night DW's best friend in the US called me in a bit of flutter saying that DW was texting her. She initially thought I might have been playing a bad joke.
Nope. DW had opened imessage, clicked the right chain, & texted her. Her friend called her back on Facetime. DW can't speak due to the tube, but they connected for 20 minutes.
Her first step back towards normality. She reached out to friend.
Amazing.
The whole thing has me thinking about how to better support people in these situations. A $500 debit card to a family with a sick loved one could be huge.
Thank you to everyone for your kind responses and well wishes.
The most amazing thing happened last night.
Yesterday I dropped off an ipad mini in an easy to hold case. Last night DW's best friend in the US called me in a bit of flutter saying that DW was texting her. She initially thought I might have been playing a bad joke.
Nope. DW had opened imessage, clicked the right chain, & texted her. Her friend called her back on Facetime. DW can't speak due to the tube, but they connected for 20 minutes.
Her first step back towards normality. She reached out to friend.
Amazing.
...The most amazing thing happened last night.
Yesterday I dropped off an ipad mini in an easy to hold case. Last night DW's best friend in the US called me in a bit of flutter saying that DW was texting her. She initially thought I might have been playing a bad joke.
Nope. DW had opened imessage, clicked the right chain, & texted her. Her friend called her back on Facetime. DW can't speak due to the tube, but they connected for 20 minutes.
Her first step back towards normality. She reached out to friend.
Amazing.
Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.
With some types of cancer, the protocol is to do chemo+radiation prior to surgery to shrink the tumor before excising it. Then, a more extensive adjuvant course of chemo is applied after the surgery to kill any stray cancerous cells that they miss.
I'm so sorry for what your family's been through. The sepsis could happen to anyone after surgery. We'll put her on our prayer list.
My wife's having mid foot arthritis surgery 12/31. This will be her 7th surgery in 2 years. She's going to be in the hospital 3 days and in rehab 3 weeks. The surgeon said this will be the worst surgery she's ever experienced as she cannot walk for 2-3 mos. And her arthritis is the worst he's ever seen.
Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.
Bamaman; So sorry for your loss.I'm so sorry for what your family's been through. The sepsis could happen to anyone after surgery. We'll put her on our prayer list.
My wife's having mid foot arthritis surgery 12/31. This will be her 7th surgery in 2 years. She's going to be in the hospital 3 days and in rehab 3 weeks. The surgeon said this will be the worst surgery she's ever experienced as she cannot walk for 2-3 mos. And her arthritis is the worst he's ever seen.
Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.