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Old 12-24-2020, 12:23 PM   #41
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C_G, good news on the recovery progress! Your story is one that demonstrates how fragile life can be. Going great one day and then all hell breaks loose another. Sepsis is a very bad thing and glad to hear that the doctors and lab figured out an effective antibiotic to treat your wife.
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...The most amazing thing happened last night.

Yesterday I dropped off an ipad mini in an easy to hold case. Last night DW's best friend in the US called me in a bit of flutter saying that DW was texting her. She initially thought I might have been playing a bad joke.

Nope. DW had opened imessage, clicked the right chain, & texted her. Her friend called her back on Facetime. DW can't speak due to the tube, but they connected for 20 minutes.

Her first step back towards normality. She reached out to friend.

Amazing.
The beginning of a Christmas miracle I hope!
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I'm so sorry for what your family's been through. The sepsis could happen to anyone after surgery. We'll put her on our prayer list.

My wife's having mid foot arthritis surgery 12/31. This will be her 7th surgery in 2 years. She's going to be in the hospital 3 days and in rehab 3 weeks. The surgeon said this will be the worst surgery she's ever experienced as she cannot walk for 2-3 mos. And her arthritis is the worst he's ever seen.

Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.
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Bamaman: What can be said? So sad about your niece. Hope your wife will be running and jumping in three months though!

Hang in.
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Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.

With some types of cancer, the protocol is to do chemo+radiation prior to surgery to shrink the tumor before excising it. Then, a more extensive adjuvant course of chemo is applied after the surgery to kill any stray cancerous cells that they miss.

Without knowing the details of your niece's treatment, I just want to mention that pre-surgery chemo+radiation is also done here in the US for certain cancer types.
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With some types of cancer, the protocol is to do chemo+radiation prior to surgery to shrink the tumor before excising it. Then, a more extensive adjuvant course of chemo is applied after the surgery to kill any stray cancerous cells that they miss.
This is exactly what M.D. Anderson did for my next door neighbors uterine cancer this past several months. She is now almost through with the second round of chemo after her surgery,
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Great post! I'm so happy that you DW is pulling through, Closet_Gamer. Your story is inspiring, and has lifted my spirits as we spent Christmas alone with our cat rather than gathering with the family just down the road a bit. We're so ready for the vaccine.
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I'm so sorry for what your family's been through. The sepsis could happen to anyone after surgery. We'll put her on our prayer list.

My wife's having mid foot arthritis surgery 12/31. This will be her 7th surgery in 2 years. She's going to be in the hospital 3 days and in rehab 3 weeks. The surgeon said this will be the worst surgery she's ever experienced as she cannot walk for 2-3 mos. And her arthritis is the worst he's ever seen.

Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.
I am so very sorry about your niece.

Hope you're wife's surgery comes together without incident!
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Closet Gamer; I have no advice or stories for you but wanted to express my prayers and good wishes for you, your family and DW.
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I'm so sorry for what your family's been through. The sepsis could happen to anyone after surgery. We'll put her on our prayer list.

My wife's having mid foot arthritis surgery 12/31. This will be her 7th surgery in 2 years. She's going to be in the hospital 3 days and in rehab 3 weeks. The surgeon said this will be the worst surgery she's ever experienced as she cannot walk for 2-3 mos. And her arthritis is the worst he's ever seen.

Our opinion of the NHS is not so good. We were in Weybridge visiting our niece, and she shortly thereafter underwent treatment for uterine cancer. The NHS should have done surgery before chemo/radiation. We brought her back to the U.S., and she didn't make it--44 years old. Had she come home for treatment, we think she'd still be alive.
Bamaman; So sorry for your loss.
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Glad to hear your wife is recovering.
Another reason to do the things you really want to do and not think you can just do it in a few years, especially us older folk.
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The insurance point has occured to me on several occasions.

There is also the unseen costs that crop up. I've had to jump the train into London several times. Usually with DD or my brother who came to help. 40 round trip tickets, 10 to park. Easy enough for me, but really a burden for lots of people. I'm hiring some help around the house for when I go back to work in January. Totally not even an option for most people.

The whole thing has me thinking about how to better support people in these situations. A $500 debit card to a family with a sick loved one could be huge.
A friend of mine was at UC San Francisco for a month. They charge like $20 a day for parking. I think that is criminal. I can see it for non family visitors but it seems like the hospital should give a parking pass to each patient. Another friend of mine had retired from UCSF a few months before my friend got sick. She had a ton of free parking stickers (I think some were for days and some were for free hours). She gave them to my sick friend's wife who used them every day for a month. She swears she used the last one on the day they transferred him to rehab.

At the time, I thought that the hospital should have a fund for cases like this. It is one thing to be in the hospital for a day or two (though that could be a hardship for some) but for a month, it is a hardship for many! I think my friend saved over $700 by having the parking stickers.
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Hi everyone.

I thought you would enjoy a happy update:

DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!
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Hi everyone.

I thought you would enjoy a happy update:

DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!
YAH!! I agree about 2020.
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Hi everyone.

I thought you would enjoy a happy update:

DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!

The best kind of update!


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I thought you would enjoy a happy update:

DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!
Great to hear. Onward to 2021.
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DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!
Yay! Great news!
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Great news to end the year with.
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I thought you would enjoy a happy update:

DW came off of the ventilator! All of the life threatening issues appear to be in the rear-view mirror. Still some hard yards ahead, but a major victory.

2020 can stick it.

On to 2021!
Tremendous news! Yay!
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