this has been a tough year for me...first turning 30, and then ending a LTR this winter.
Happy birthday! And sorry about the relationship, that sucks.
On the up side, you're "only" 30 so you've still got lots of time. I hadn't even thought about retirement when I was 30, so you're already ahead of the game. Start making little changes now, and as you see your savings grow you'll probably find other areas you save save a little more.
I really don't see myself beekeeping or building houses or canoeing or making craft beers...those just aren't my interests. I DO need to hit more free/cheaper concerts though
Try new things, you never know what you might enjoy doing! Go for a hike, watch free movies in the park, do trivia or game nights at the local library, check out books or movies from the library, visit your local farmers market, try your hand at cooking, sewing, or crafts. Gather your friends, buy a day pass, and see where you can explore around town on mass transit.
Of course, you can always find cheaper alternatives for the interests you have now. Like to shop? Try shopping at Goodwill or garage sales. The biggest thing is not to impulse buy and/or buy things you didn't need anyway. Coupons only save money if you were buying that item anyway! Concerts? There are plenty of free concerts at parks, and live music nights at many wineries and restaurants.
entertainment spending for may
I don't know what percentage of your income that is, but most of those expenses are quite reasonable. $400 for travel is great, as long as you're not doing it EVERY month. Same for your Target and Amazon shopping. The concert, eating out, and the gym are probably the more wasteful items, but again it's not a big deal unless you are doing it frequently. Set aside some "fun" money and enjoy 2 or 3 paid concerts a year, then fill in with free entertainment in between.
about $19,000 left in school debt
owe about $8,000 on my car, payments are like $370 a month
credit cards have maybe $2,000 on them
I would scrimp as much as I could to pay off those debts as quickly as possible. You're just throwing money away on interest!
In the future, don't charge anything to your credit card unless you can pay it off in full each month. Buy used cars that you pay cash for instead of financing a new vehicle.
Overall you're looking good for 30 years old. You have more debt than I did at that age, but if you focus on paying them off you can get those out of your life in short time. The money you're paying in interest now can then go to your savings.
You don't have to change your life dramatically, little changes can make a big difference. Do the things you enjoy, but choose your spending wisely.