I've seen this mentioned enough that I know I'm not the only one with this potential problem.
My wife and I are 30/29, and our parents are in their mid-late 50's. My parents-in-law have retired (and are rapidly running out of cash), and my parents are still working (but still spending up a storm).
We have tried to bring up the money questions with both parents, mentioning to both that we'd like to talk now so that we don't have to support anyone when we're older. Neither conversation really went anywhere. We got the "We're fine", and "Good idea, maybe we'll look into it someday".
My wife and I are planning on retiring early (I want to retire the day before I turn 40, if not earlier). We are retiring early partially because we're not planning on spending much. We'll hike, live aboard a sailboat, and other plans we're working on.
Anyway, point being that although we're retiring, we don't have the cash to support anyone. I want to make this point clear to both sets of families, on the chance that they're keeping "The kids will help us in an emergency" in the back of their minds.
Anyone have a good idea of how to write such a letter in a polite way? I'm thinking something like:
"Parents,
Wife and I wanted to write you a quick letter to inform you of our future financial plans. As we have mentioned in the past, we plan on retiring pretty early. However, our plans assume that our spending will be at very low levels.
This means that we will not be available to lend financial support to any relatives. We wanted to make this clear now, as we are concerned that relatives may see us retiring at such a young age and believe that we must be rich.
It was just something that concerned us, and we wanted to make certain this was clear.
Thanks,
Son & Wife."
Any thoughts?
My wife and I are 30/29, and our parents are in their mid-late 50's. My parents-in-law have retired (and are rapidly running out of cash), and my parents are still working (but still spending up a storm).
We have tried to bring up the money questions with both parents, mentioning to both that we'd like to talk now so that we don't have to support anyone when we're older. Neither conversation really went anywhere. We got the "We're fine", and "Good idea, maybe we'll look into it someday".
My wife and I are planning on retiring early (I want to retire the day before I turn 40, if not earlier). We are retiring early partially because we're not planning on spending much. We'll hike, live aboard a sailboat, and other plans we're working on.
Anyway, point being that although we're retiring, we don't have the cash to support anyone. I want to make this point clear to both sets of families, on the chance that they're keeping "The kids will help us in an emergency" in the back of their minds.
Anyone have a good idea of how to write such a letter in a polite way? I'm thinking something like:
"Parents,
Wife and I wanted to write you a quick letter to inform you of our future financial plans. As we have mentioned in the past, we plan on retiring pretty early. However, our plans assume that our spending will be at very low levels.
This means that we will not be available to lend financial support to any relatives. We wanted to make this clear now, as we are concerned that relatives may see us retiring at such a young age and believe that we must be rich.
It was just something that concerned us, and we wanted to make certain this was clear.
Thanks,
Son & Wife."
Any thoughts?