ziggy29
Moderator Emeritus
The recent threads on discretionary spending and about eating out got me to thinking about this.
Has anyone else noticed an increase in the militancy and the "I told you sos" among the long-time LBYM crowd (or worse, the new converts to being thrifty)? I'm not just talking about suggestions about money management but downright judgmentalness about how one chooses to spend their dollars, even if they can clearly afford to "blow" them and it increases their enjoyment of life?
In another place, not all that long ago I was taken to task as a wasteful squanderer of money because we reported spending $2200 for dining out in 2008. (More than half of this was a social event for us and some friends after church most weeks last year.)
There's always someone who doesn't look at the whole "financial report," but the one line item. And suddenly, you're some wasteful, reckless cretin for having the audacity to spend your money differently than they would.
And when you remind them you have no debt and saved over $25K for savings and retirement last year, do they back off? No. They come back with something like "well it could have been over $27K if you weren't so damn reckless with your money!"
And these days, with cheap being sexy, it's worse than ever. Most of the time I just laugh it off and say "whatever" -- but still, have any of you encountered in increase in the in-your-face tongue-lashings of the LBYMers or the "nouveau cheap" for spending money you can clearly afford to spend if it enhances your life?
Has anyone else noticed an increase in the militancy and the "I told you sos" among the long-time LBYM crowd (or worse, the new converts to being thrifty)? I'm not just talking about suggestions about money management but downright judgmentalness about how one chooses to spend their dollars, even if they can clearly afford to "blow" them and it increases their enjoyment of life?
In another place, not all that long ago I was taken to task as a wasteful squanderer of money because we reported spending $2200 for dining out in 2008. (More than half of this was a social event for us and some friends after church most weeks last year.)
There's always someone who doesn't look at the whole "financial report," but the one line item. And suddenly, you're some wasteful, reckless cretin for having the audacity to spend your money differently than they would.
And when you remind them you have no debt and saved over $25K for savings and retirement last year, do they back off? No. They come back with something like "well it could have been over $27K if you weren't so damn reckless with your money!"
And these days, with cheap being sexy, it's worse than ever. Most of the time I just laugh it off and say "whatever" -- but still, have any of you encountered in increase in the in-your-face tongue-lashings of the LBYMers or the "nouveau cheap" for spending money you can clearly afford to spend if it enhances your life?