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Originally Posted by RetiredHappy
Yeah... except that a social worker was called on the ex- for dementia several years ago. The ex-husband was contacted by the social worker about the woman's situation. So dementia is / was true, her current state is unknown. Her daughter sold her mother's house and said the mother has been placed in a facility. I got a feeling contacting SS is the only way to find out.
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Well, if there is a sensitivity on the part of the ex-husband to not seem pushy your strategy would be best. But I'd simply tell the daughter I needed substantiation that my ex-wife was still alive or the alimony checks would cease.
If the daughter is offended by the implication that she might be hiding her mother's death and collecting the alimony payments fraudulently, well too bad. I'm guessing a judge would support the alimony payer's right to know.
It could be something as simple and automatic and the NH sending a copy of the minutes of the monthly "client meeting" to the alimony payer.
It really seems strange that there is any issue with the ex-wife's status being visible to the alimony payer. My guess is that a judge would agree. The alimony payer does not need to be shy here. He's paying his ex-wife alimony for her lifetime. Her life status is not made clear by having her daughter's signature endorsing his checks!