I am named the executor of my dads trust to be split between me and my brother. Before our inheritance, I would have hit my FIRE goal early 2021. He has never had money before. As a matter of fact, when my dad would gift us money, he would buy my brother stuff that is "needed" like fixing up his house or a down payment on a used car so he wouldn't waste the money.
My dad was sick for over a year, almost died several times in the mean time, and finally passed after being in the hospital 3 weeks.
Once he died, I setup appointments with realtors, auctioneers and his brokerage house to transfer assets.
Right before the realtor got to the house, I was told my brother may want to buy the house. I was surprised, because it's a county home and takes much more work than your typical suburban house. Since then, I have heard anything between "I'm 80% sure I'm buying the house" to " we can discuss this after the funeral" to "I want to buy his cars, tools and household items" to "well, some of it". Or maybe all of it.
The BIG problem is my brother's son and wife moved in "temporarily" at least 6 weeks ago. He was supposed to be out in under 30 days. They have not paid rent or any bills. When I asked them to give me an idea on when they will be leaving it's "a few weeks". Or "6-8 weeks" or "we're not sure." From what I understand, to legally get them out of the house, I have to formally evict them. Is that the case? I don't want to, but I can't trust my nephew or my brother with what they say.
Also, according to some of my brothers kids, he now needs 2-3 weeks to "think about" buying the house. From what the realtor said, and I know this to be true around here, to sell a country home needs to be done by the end of September. If not, you are likely to hold it through the winter, then I have all those issues to deal with. And the house is filled with clutter that they absolutely refuse to get rid of or store in the onsite, outbuilding.
This turned into a big shouting match the other day and I really don't expect our families to ever talk again.
Any help is appreciated.
My dad was sick for over a year, almost died several times in the mean time, and finally passed after being in the hospital 3 weeks.
Once he died, I setup appointments with realtors, auctioneers and his brokerage house to transfer assets.
Right before the realtor got to the house, I was told my brother may want to buy the house. I was surprised, because it's a county home and takes much more work than your typical suburban house. Since then, I have heard anything between "I'm 80% sure I'm buying the house" to " we can discuss this after the funeral" to "I want to buy his cars, tools and household items" to "well, some of it". Or maybe all of it.
The BIG problem is my brother's son and wife moved in "temporarily" at least 6 weeks ago. He was supposed to be out in under 30 days. They have not paid rent or any bills. When I asked them to give me an idea on when they will be leaving it's "a few weeks". Or "6-8 weeks" or "we're not sure." From what I understand, to legally get them out of the house, I have to formally evict them. Is that the case? I don't want to, but I can't trust my nephew or my brother with what they say.
Also, according to some of my brothers kids, he now needs 2-3 weeks to "think about" buying the house. From what the realtor said, and I know this to be true around here, to sell a country home needs to be done by the end of September. If not, you are likely to hold it through the winter, then I have all those issues to deal with. And the house is filled with clutter that they absolutely refuse to get rid of or store in the onsite, outbuilding.
This turned into a big shouting match the other day and I really don't expect our families to ever talk again.
Any help is appreciated.
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