Gone4Good
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One couple in particular, who we became good friends with, has been on an increasing expense trajectory over the years while we've been on a decreasing expense trajectory. The gap has become so wide that we're uncomfortable hanging out with them as often as we used to. While they're expanding/remodeling their house (literally almost doubling sq footage and lavishly appointing) we're decluttering and looking forward to buying a smaller house. . . .
I'm in a similar situation with my circle of friends, but have never had a problem with it. I think its because I'm very comfortable with the choices I've made and I simply value things differently than my friends do. One couple has a living space that is literally 6x as large as ours. They just finished a basement (a "man den") that is as big as our entire place. But every time I visit them I leave thinking the same thing . . . "It's nice, but I really, really don't want it."
Meanwhile, I just told these same friends about my plans to quit my job and travel around North America indefinitely. To express his disbelief he says to me . . . "I'm still waiting for the punch line." I guess the punch line is that he's still got 20 more years of work in front of him to pay for all of his stuff.