I think OP was just starting a conversation. I don't see anything shocking about OP's spend. It's a little above budget, but still in the ok zone. I know women who drop half the clothing budget at a high end salon on a monthly basis with a color, cut, style, manicure, pedicure with tips; and others who think nothing about dropping $2,500 on a bag.
I recall being a little surprised when OP decided upon a 52k yard reno w/n a week of retirement, but hopefully he and DW are enjoying that and it will last many years.
Not sure why it's ok to spend an insane amount of $ on fancy beef, recreational vehicles and first class travel, but posters seem to want OP's wife to perform a Swedish death cleaning.
And so, my contribution to all this, convert a spare bedroom to a closet for DW to play in. Make sure the clothing rods are really, really strong. They sound like gunshots when they break.