Chuckanut
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I made the decision to only date women who were somebody's mother.
I had bad experiences with two women who did not have children. One actually got very angry when I spent a weekend hiking in the local mountains with my oldest daughter. She was furious with me. You would think I had spent the weekend at a swanky resort hotel sharing a room with a former girlfriend! The other made it quite clear that I was expected to leave all I had to her upon my death. My children could get 'mementos' of their dad. Ain't gonna happen.
For whatever reason, the above two did not understand the parent-child bond, how it differs from the romantic bond, and why both can exist happily with each other in the same person.
I realize that many women who never had children may take offense, but I mean none. For me, parenting children provids a common frame of reference for the events in one's life. Perhaps that is a defect in me.
I had bad experiences with two women who did not have children. One actually got very angry when I spent a weekend hiking in the local mountains with my oldest daughter. She was furious with me. You would think I had spent the weekend at a swanky resort hotel sharing a room with a former girlfriend! The other made it quite clear that I was expected to leave all I had to her upon my death. My children could get 'mementos' of their dad. Ain't gonna happen.
For whatever reason, the above two did not understand the parent-child bond, how it differs from the romantic bond, and why both can exist happily with each other in the same person.
I realize that many women who never had children may take offense, but I mean none. For me, parenting children provids a common frame of reference for the events in one's life. Perhaps that is a defect in me.
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