has anyone tried to get you to spend more?

[W2R]

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Originally Posted by youbet Don't be too hard on the folks who want you to vacation or travel with them. They obviously enjoy your company. Friends who want to spend time with you can't be overvalued.

Just because they pressure you to travel, doesn't mean that they want to spend time with you or will. Usually once I have paid to go to (wherever it is), my family "ditches" me and I end up by myself, wondering what I am doing there. That's one of several reasons why I don't feel too guilty about saying "no".

They don't want to be with me - - they just think I should be traveling, because that's what my family does. Travel for fun and education. Only thing is, it's not fun for me and having spent my youth being dragged all over the world, by now I don't get much out of it. I have re-defined things because I don't like to travel.

[lucija]

OK, we have never been pressured to spend (more) for vacations, probably because we spend an insane amount each year anyway (at least 3-5 times more than family and friends), but... here's what I hate...

Whenever we go out to eat with my husband's family, they always have a problem with my lunch/dinner choice. Most of the time these are somewhat special occasions (vacations, get-togethers, etc.) and, I guess, I am expected to eat shrimp/lobster or at a minimum some type of steak! Never mind that I (by choice) do not eat shell fish and I am not big into eating large chunks of red meat (especially not at a chain place like Bennigan's). Why can't I just enjoy my chicken/veggy/pasta dish in peace??

[tangomonster]

I didn't have anything to say on this thread since I don't have too many people in my life, especially who would do this, but last night it happened:

A frined who is divorced and still working at age 60 (she will need to keep working for a number of more years until her kids get out of college) was in Albuquerque for a professional conference. And she had that workshop high, being in a new place and meeting new people...all on her employer's tab! She started in asking me if we were never going to travel again (we have been happy staying at home, loving our new home, and saving our money for what we consider more crucial since we retired at 52 with no pensions and with $1000 monthly health premiums). I resented it and thought it was very disingenuous of her. She hasn't been traveling herself because she is strapped financially (for some reason, still keeping the big house even though it's just her now, still doing the $80 hair cuts)---she was just in New Mexico because her employer was paying for it and in fact wasn't going to be doing any sightseeing because she would have to absorb the cost herself! Maybe I would travel if my boss was paying for it, but I'd sure rather be free everyday of the year than have to deal with work and just get four days off and room and board for a conference! Aaack! People!!!!

[joesxm3]

My boss is always nagging me to spend more and making remarks about how cheap I am. At least he admitted that although I am very frugal I am willing to be generous and to pick up my share of the tabs (even though his net worth is likely 10x mine and he could easily pay all the time).

Last week was my birthday and I told him that I finally took his advice and splurged and bought myself a nice big birthday present ...

A Discover Bank 6 month CD :-)

[Lsbcal]

Joesxm, looks like you are in-line for a nice raise with that game plan !