Originally Posted by OldShooter
This is not a financial question to be dealt with using data and logic. This is a relationship question where data and logic are nearly irrelevant.
To the OP, you cannot force anyone to retire, even if FI. If they like their job, and are happy with the circumstances, that is fine.
According to Megacorp financial planners, we were FI in 2012. On the one hand, it making working a lot easier - being FI when you enjoy your job is a good "safety blanket". For me it meant being able to take more risks (which led to more income) since my attitude was "worse case, the project fails, they fire me, I'm still FI".
One the other hand, you are FI at a certain income/expense level, and I decided I wanted more than FI at a "good" spending level, I wanted FI at an "extravagant" spending level (or "Fat FIRE" or "Pleasingly Plump FIRE" or whatever one wants to call it
). So I continued to work - again, easy with a job you like - for another 6 years.
I understand using "when the kids are through school" as a marker, I did the same thing. It made sense for us to pay school costs from current income rather than have to factor them into retirement expenses.
So, really, this is less about "why continue to work about FI" and more about getting on the same page with one's spouse on this topic.