Ronstar
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15 or 20 minutes.
About the same for me. I only worked a day or 2 a week for a year prior to retiring, so I didn't associate myself much with work when I retired.
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15 or 20 minutes.
I really identify with this. My mind was always trying to solve some problem instead of relax like I was telling it to do. What I did to break the cycle after I separated from work was: 1) planned a patio remodel, then 2) immediately took a three week trip to the other side of the planet. 3) on return was busy every day with the remodel. 4) Then enjoyed the new patio every day until summer was over. 5)Took a couple of more short trips in country this time. Then 6) three months on the other side of the world again (first time ever in my life I had done this).A lot of interesting and thoughtful responses here - thank you. One issue seems to how to identify yourself in social situations. The other angle I am interested in is how you see yourself.
An example: in December, towards the end of a two-week trip in Mexico, I was walking along a beautiful beach, and didn't my mind wander to a serious problem facing my organization, how we could solve at least part of the problem, and how I would pitch it to the org's head.
I cursed myself for not being able to turn off the work-me and focus on the travelling-me. I realize that this comes from my commitment to my work, but work has always got in the way of travelling and other things that. I really want to do. So I am trying to figure out how I will shut down the professional side of me as I know that when I leave, the org will replace me as they should, and get on with its job.
I was a kept man always worked for me, no one asked for details.
What I would really like to answer to "What do you do?" is "Anything I damn well want!" but somehow that does not work socially.
Sounds like you could be a regular George Castanza "I'm an architect!"
I've found that a "Not much!" response, along with a simile, goes over reasonably well...
Or Marine Biologist
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So how long did it take you to go from being "I am a banker/lawyer/plumber/mechanic/accountant/teacher" to "I am Betty/Joe?Rashmi/Vladimir/Julio/Patience"?
I agree that the topic of former occupation is a good conversation starter. People really are interested and interesting themselves, if you ask them - it goes both ways.