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Old 02-13-2021, 12:20 PM   #101
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FIRE success is its own reward. You have the magic ticket in your pocket. When you decide to use it, you'll be quietly recognized by everyone around you who'd love to do the same thing.

I can think of few things more respected than someone who gets to retire early from a rewarding career and live life on their own terms.
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Old 02-13-2021, 12:47 PM   #102
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I feel no need to be recognized for my financial success. However I didn't work my tail off and save and invest wisely my whole life to putter around in an old clunker car with memory dents all over it. I Could care less what people think about what I drive, I want to drive a nice vehicle and buy whatever I want. If people have a problem with that it's their issue not mine.
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Old 02-13-2021, 01:08 PM   #103
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I want to drive a nice vehicle and buy whatever I want. If people have a problem with that it's their issue not mine.
As usual, à chacun son goût......I doubt that most people are proselytizing, (I'm certainly not, being more in the 'caringly constipated' category), nor experiencing 'problems' with what others drive.
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Old 02-13-2021, 01:12 PM   #104
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The sad truth is that most people aren't thinking at all about what you drive or where you live or how you dress. Mostly, they're doing the same thing you are -- thinking about themselves. So I say don't worry, be happy.
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Old 02-13-2021, 01:26 PM   #105
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I feel no need to be recognized for my financial success. However I didn't work my tail off and save and invest wisely my whole life to putter around in an old clunker car with memory dents all over it. I Could care less what people think about what I drive, I want to drive a nice vehicle and buy whatever I want. If people have a problem with that it's their issue not mine.
Each of us has our own priorities. At one time, my car was much more a priority than it is now. If I ever return to the mainland, I might just buy a nice vehicle - would love to have a new C-8 but doubt it will ever happen. Not even sure I could still get in (or, more importantly OUT) of one. YMMV
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Old 02-13-2021, 01:31 PM   #106
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I believe in this so strongly, that it startles me when I learn, as I occasionally do, that people have been talking about me. Evidently they are starved for entertainment.

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Old 02-13-2021, 01:42 PM   #107
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I believe in this so strongly, that it startles me when I learn, as I occasionally do, that people have been talking about me. Evidently they are starved for entertainment.
Just to ease your mind, I have never talked about you and most likely never will. Unless this post counts. LOL
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Old 02-13-2021, 01:50 PM   #108
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Is there any yearning to be recognized for your FIRE success?
Get your recognition here. Your accomplishments are more appreciated and it is safer. Working 10 years after FI will put you in a position where you will be trying to figure out how to spend all the money. Not a bad situation. Although we bought modest cars and drove them into the ground. Now there is no point
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Old 02-13-2021, 05:33 PM   #109
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If I did suddenly yearn for recognition of my financial "success", I could sell my current house and buy one much higher on the socioeconomic ladder. What tangible things would I get for my money? Well, a larger lot, larger rooms, more rooms, larger garage, etc. What intangible things would I get? Well, more affluent neighbors and the opportunity to exercise my personal vanity: "oooh ... just look at what I can afford, people ... "

The problem is that I can't justify such a move on the basis of an improvement in my current quality of life. I don't need a larger lot, larger rooms, more rooms, etc., and my current solidly middle-class neighbors are fine. In fact, a larger property would just bring more headaches and costs while providing few, if any, benefits.

So ... if I suddenly find myself needing recognition for financial success I'll have to find some other method than upgrading my personal residence. Maybe a sports car will do the trick?
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Old 02-13-2021, 06:45 PM   #110
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My spouse is the opposite. She seems embarrassed by our financial resources. The very last thing she wants is for others to know about it. Not that they would....because I am somewhat of a dark horse when it comes to discussing financial issues with anyone except our advisor.
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Old 02-14-2021, 12:10 PM   #111
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We even considered allowing our families to believe that we are still working (I am still working until April - DW retired last year). Ultimately though, it seemed too difficult of a lie (or omission) to pull off.
I have that same thought - not telling my family (who are all 3k miles away).
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From the outside, no one can tell my financial net worth..... I like to wear socks until they have holes in them. ....
Pretty extravagant of you.
I put on socks this morning, and realizing there was a hole in one, turned it around so the hole is on top.
I can get another 6 months out of that sock...
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:28 PM   #113
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So many replies in such a short amount of time must have hit a nerve. I'm quite chuffed about my "success" but I'm also a very private person so I have no desire to be recognized. Here and BH's are the only place I have to discuss this subject to any extent and my post count probably displays my reticence to even do that.
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Old 02-14-2021, 09:42 PM   #114
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Old 02-15-2021, 10:29 AM   #115
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Both wife and I retired last year at age 56 and keep a very low profile about our early retirement status and efforts that made our financial freedom possible. We recognize how blessed we are and simply keep silent.
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Old 02-15-2021, 01:48 PM   #116
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None of our friends have a solid idea of our net worth. They know about my ER, but our lifestyle in our neighborhood is fairly typical of middle class spending.
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People know we are wealthy from how we live. We travel a lot, for awhile our son went to private school, we gift family 80k a year, other years we’ve bought our parents new suvs, gave family down payments for houses, etc. that and not getting a job and RE after getting let go in early 40s was another big flag.
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Old 02-16-2021, 04:34 PM   #118
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I disagree that a lot of people live w “an illusion” of wealth. If they have a 3-5mm house, send all 3 kids to private school when the live in the best school district, and have several summer homes, they probably really are wealthy. You’d be surprised how many really wealthy people there are.
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Old 02-16-2021, 04:48 PM   #120
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I know a lot of millionaires living from one paycheck to the next. But this is Hawaii, where the average (crappy) house sells for over $885K.
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