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Well, today did not go well. It had all the makings of a good situation, but in the end, DD is pissed off and I'm looking for some help to process this. Thankfully, it's not a huge deal, but I've found myself in this situation before, and would like to not have it happen again.
DD and I have been talking about baking cookies. We've texted back and forth about me coming to get them (she lives an hour away) but with the stay at home order, she would have none of it. And I totally respect that.
Today, me and DW get a text from DD that says look in our mail box. DD lives an hour away. She baked cookies and dropped them off without letting us know she was here. DW called DD. At first confused because we hadn't gone out to the mail box yet. But while on the phone, DW figures out what happened and (this is the problem part) instead of saying how cool it was for DD to drop off the cookies, DW questions DD on why she didn't say hi. In fact, we were out in the yard and she said she saw us but just dropped the cookies and drove off. DW is on the phone, but of course the peanut gallery (me) is in full swing asking the same question. Why didn't you stop? We could have stayed far away from each other (again, I respect that), but at least we could have seen her. FWIW, we haven't seen her since the holidays. Anyway, DD abruptly say she's gotta go and that's it. She hangs up, obviously pissed. In fact, DW says that DD said something like "no thanks for the cookies?".
I sent her a text saying how the cookies were a great thought, but that we miss her. No response. I'm sure this isn't a major issue, but as I said, it seems to happen regularly. Me and DW miss the "obvious" fact that we should have been excited for the gesture and insert our disappointment of not seeing her. Generically, we don't see the good through our lenses the way we should seem to.
Anyway, it sucked to ruin a good day/gesture. I'm sure at the moment, her feeling that she's missed (loved) isn't winning the day but hopefully it will. I'd just like to 1) Find a way to not have this happen and 2) Make sure she knows we love her so much - before we pass.
P.S., I thought about not eating the cookies in protest, but that feeling went away very quickly She's a good cook/baker.
DD and I have been talking about baking cookies. We've texted back and forth about me coming to get them (she lives an hour away) but with the stay at home order, she would have none of it. And I totally respect that.
Today, me and DW get a text from DD that says look in our mail box. DD lives an hour away. She baked cookies and dropped them off without letting us know she was here. DW called DD. At first confused because we hadn't gone out to the mail box yet. But while on the phone, DW figures out what happened and (this is the problem part) instead of saying how cool it was for DD to drop off the cookies, DW questions DD on why she didn't say hi. In fact, we were out in the yard and she said she saw us but just dropped the cookies and drove off. DW is on the phone, but of course the peanut gallery (me) is in full swing asking the same question. Why didn't you stop? We could have stayed far away from each other (again, I respect that), but at least we could have seen her. FWIW, we haven't seen her since the holidays. Anyway, DD abruptly say she's gotta go and that's it. She hangs up, obviously pissed. In fact, DW says that DD said something like "no thanks for the cookies?".
I sent her a text saying how the cookies were a great thought, but that we miss her. No response. I'm sure this isn't a major issue, but as I said, it seems to happen regularly. Me and DW miss the "obvious" fact that we should have been excited for the gesture and insert our disappointment of not seeing her. Generically, we don't see the good through our lenses the way we should seem to.
Anyway, it sucked to ruin a good day/gesture. I'm sure at the moment, her feeling that she's missed (loved) isn't winning the day but hopefully it will. I'd just like to 1) Find a way to not have this happen and 2) Make sure she knows we love her so much - before we pass.
P.S., I thought about not eating the cookies in protest, but that feeling went away very quickly She's a good cook/baker.