SunsetSail
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I'll add my perspective as a parent of young children (2 & 4). Both sets of grandparents of my kids live about 30 minutes from us. I couldn't imagine my kids growing up without seeing their grandparents on birthdays, holidays as well as the casual visit.
I think 30 minutes an ideal distance. It is close enough to help with something (both ways, heavy lifting, computers, or whatever they need. vs. date nights for DW & I, etc.), but there is enough distance that the four of us are the core of most activities. If grandparents are too close I think it is easy to rely too much on the grandparents and many grandparents would often feel pressured not to say no when asked to help.
I think you've worked out a great balance that can be refined as grandchildren grow.
Depending on where the kids are in NorCal you could consider the NV shore of Lake Tahoe to enjoy state tax free income. Actually, I think you mentioned the bay area, so never mind that would probably be too far.
I think 30 minutes an ideal distance. It is close enough to help with something (both ways, heavy lifting, computers, or whatever they need. vs. date nights for DW & I, etc.), but there is enough distance that the four of us are the core of most activities. If grandparents are too close I think it is easy to rely too much on the grandparents and many grandparents would often feel pressured not to say no when asked to help.
I think you've worked out a great balance that can be refined as grandchildren grow.
Depending on where the kids are in NorCal you could consider the NV shore of Lake Tahoe to enjoy state tax free income. Actually, I think you mentioned the bay area, so never mind that would probably be too far.