Join Early Retirement Today
Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
Old 10-18-2020, 06:29 AM   #61
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Mpls
Posts: 424
Amethyst,
I was occasionally inviting my long time lady friend over for nice dinners, because I enjoy cooking, and I hate making a beautiful meal, and then eating it alone.

My favorite meal is a spicy shrimp linguini recipe that I basically made up. She really likes it too. Add a bottle of wine, and a nice evening out on the patio, it made for a perfect evening.

In hindsight, maybe I was the casserole winning her over. We were just buddies hanging out together at the time.

JP
Quote:
Originally Posted by Amethyst View Post
So funny. I have actually heard the word "casseroling" used as a verb. Describing the old ladies converging on the widower with stuff he probably doesn't even like to eat. Me, I'd cook a guy a steak.
JP.mpls is offline   Reply With Quote
Join the #1 Early Retirement and Financial Independence Forum Today - It's Totally Free!

Are you planning to be financially independent as early as possible so you can live life on your own terms? Discuss successful investing strategies, asset allocation models, tax strategies and other related topics in our online forum community. Our members range from young folks just starting their journey to financial independence, military retirees and even multimillionaires. No matter where you fit in you'll find that Early-Retirement.org is a great community to join. Best of all it's totally FREE!

You are currently viewing our boards as a guest so you have limited access to our community. Please take the time to register and you will gain a lot of great new features including; the ability to participate in discussions, network with our members, see fewer ads, upload photographs, create a retirement blog, send private messages and so much, much more!

Old 10-18-2020, 07:34 AM   #62
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Amethyst's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 10,211
Personally I think that people who "break the mold" in cool ways like this (the "mold" in this case being the woman always preparing the food) are the most interesting people.

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP.mpls View Post
Amethyst,
I was occasionally inviting my long time lady friend over for nice dinners, because I enjoy cooking, and I hate making a beautiful meal, and then eating it alone.

My favorite meal is a spicy shrimp linguini recipe that I basically made up. She really likes it too. Add a bottle of wine, and a nice evening out on the patio, it made for a perfect evening.

In hindsight, maybe I was the casserole winning her over. We were just buddies hanging out together at the time.

JP
__________________
If you understood everything I say, you'd be me ~ Miles Davis
'There is only one success to be able to spend your life in your own way. Christopher Morley.
It involved a mannequin hand, and an electric shaver taped to a golf club! - "The Other Guys"
Amethyst is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 09:58 AM   #63
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Chuckanut's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: West of the Mississippi
Posts: 12,413
Quote:
Originally Posted by Amethyst View Post
Personally I think that people who "break the mold" in cool ways like this (the "mold" in this case being the woman always preparing the food) are the most interesting people.
I think the mold, if not broken, is already pretty well cracked.

I love to cook, having learned from my mother who was an excellent cook. However, I have never casseroled a woman to try and get into her sphere of interest. I need to try that some day.

IIRC, we have a number of men here who cook on a regular basis. The times they are a changin'.
__________________
The worst decisions are usually made in times of anger and impatience.
Chuckanut is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 11:05 AM   #64
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Mpls
Posts: 424
Chuckanut,
I learned how to cook, because I love food, and I liked making what I enjoy eating.
My father also cooked, so it seemed normal.

My wife was a good cook, but gladly let me take over primary duties of grocery shopping, cooking and dishes.

She worked full time too, it would be unreasonable to expect her to be June Cleaver when she got home.

My father in law was old school, and also an ass. He couldn't/wouldn't even make himself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Almost like a child.

He was offered and shocked when we had her family over for a Thanksgiving dinner, and I was doing the cooking. Whatever.

JP
Quote:
Originally Posted by Chuckanut View Post
I think the mold, if not broken, is already pretty well cracked.

I love to cook, having learned from my mother who was an excellent cook. However, I have never casseroled a woman to try and get into her sphere of interest. I need to try that some day.

IIRC, we have a number of men here who cook on a regular basis. The times they are a changin'.
JP.mpls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 11:07 AM   #65
Administrator
Gumby's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2006
Posts: 16,895
My cooking is . . . adequate. However, I am a first-rate scullery maid.
__________________
Living an analog life in the Digital Age.
Gumby is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 11:12 AM   #66
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Mpls
Posts: 424
My step mother gets almost embarrassed when I turn into her scullery maid if she cooks the family a meal.
I think she has learned to enjoy it now. She still tells me to leave the dishes, knowing that isn't going to happen.
Kind of fun spoiling her.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Gumby View Post
My cooking is . . . adequate. However, I am a first-rate scullery maid.
JP.mpls is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 11:20 AM   #67
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Amethyst's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 10,211
I think we need more people, of both sexes, with this kindly and generous attitude.

Quote:
Originally Posted by JP.mpls View Post
My step mother gets almost embarrassed when I turn into her scullery maid if she cooks the family a meal.
I think she has learned to enjoy it now. She still tells me to leave the dishes, knowing that isn't going to happen.
Kind of fun spoiling her.
__________________
If you understood everything I say, you'd be me ~ Miles Davis
'There is only one success to be able to spend your life in your own way. Christopher Morley.
It involved a mannequin hand, and an electric shaver taped to a golf club! - "The Other Guys"
Amethyst is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 11:57 AM   #68
Moderator
braumeister's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Flyover country
Posts: 18,676
I love to buy the groceries and do all the cooking, while DW will only cook a meal if she has to. She doesn't mind cleaning up in the kitchen afterward, though.

OTOH, apart from an occasional loaf of bread or batch of NYC style bagels, I'm utterly hopeless at baking, while she is a virtuoso cookie maker. So we're quite happy with our setup.
__________________
I thought growing old would take longer.
braumeister is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 12:13 PM   #69
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
Nemo2's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Posts: 8,368
Quote:
Originally Posted by JP.mpls View Post
My father in law was old school, and also an ass. He couldn't/wouldn't even make himself a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Almost like a child.
That brought back memories; Toronto maybe 50 years ago - my first wife and I were at a party and got talking to a girl who did two jobs, (she'd just finished work and dropped in on her way home).

Her husband, (I remember he was a photographer), would wait, no matter how hungry, until she came home and made him food.

Me...I'd shared accommodation with bunches of guys for years, and if you didn't/couldn't/wouldn't participate in food prep or cleanup, (we actually had nobody like that), I guess you'd go out or starve.
__________________
"Exit, pursued by a bear."

The Winter's Tale, William Shakespeare
Nemo2 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 12:21 PM   #70
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
Give me a forum ...
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Kansas City
Posts: 7,880
Hmm - 13 years in ER before the first one passed, 7 years single, and now 7 years hitched and counting.

Not to mention 1000 miles inland post Katrina - on a hill.

Heh heh heh - unplanned events are unplanned events. Right now wing flapping happy.
unclemick is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 10-18-2020, 01:12 PM   #71
Recycles dryer sheets
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Mpls
Posts: 424
Wing flapping happy.

Working on this Uncle Mick. Sounds like a good plan. I think I'm on the right track.

JP
Quote:
Originally Posted by unclemick View Post
Hmm - 13 years in ER before the first one passed, 7 years single, and now 7 years hitched and counting.

Not to mention 1000 miles inland post Katrina - on a hill.

Heh heh heh - unplanned events are unplanned events. Right now wing flapping happy.
JP.mpls is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Widow's question re Social security jsbindex Hi, I am... 3 10-15-2006 09:41 PM
The Grieving Widow? Maybe Not... REWahoo Other topics 33 03-22-2006 05:20 PM
Norwegian Widow, The Secret Is Out yakers FIRE and Money 4 02-02-2006 11:10 AM
What IS the Norweigan Widow anyway? Jane_Doe FIRE and Money 27 10-06-2005 07:56 PM
please help ... widow's porfolio qbkatran FIRE and Money 52 07-08-2005 06:07 AM

» Quick Links

 
All times are GMT -6. The time now is 09:50 AM.
 
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 1
Copyright ©2000 - 2021, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.