I just think that few women are prepared for just how difficult it is to start "getting things going" as it were, especially for the first time, and with all the stress and pressure in the first day or two after birth, if she's not mentally prepared for the idea that it's not usually like "flipping a switch" and can be rough going at first, the inclination is to give in to using formula. My wife certainly wasn't prepared. And it doesn't help that many nurses at the hospital just want to take the easy way out and tell the mother to give formula (just so that they baby cries less in the first day or two at the nursery) when in fact for the first couple days babies need relatively little.
The commercial baby-formula industry definitely has an incentive to get you hooked from the start on formula, at the moment you are most vulnerable to giving in.
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I agree and disagree. My experience was the exact opposite with the nurses at the hospital. They were downright pushy to breastfeed, breastfeed, breastfeed. All the books make it sound so easy: you have the baby and bang! you should be able to breastfeed right away. What the books don't tell you is that breastfeeding is difficult and not every woman can produce enough milk. Thank goodness for formula; it was my lifesaver.
The only advice I can offer is to be prepared for anything. Yes, I believe that breastfeeding is the best choice but it is not always possible. Don't let your wife feel guilty if she's not able to breastfeed and have a backup plan in place: make sure you have some bottles and formula on hand once you bring the baby home. Nothing worse than running to the store at midnight because you have a screaming baby at home who is hungry
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