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If I'm out one day it will be enough 18 6.23%
1 year minimum 11 3.81%
5 years 7 2.42%
10 years 28 9.69%
20 years 132 45.67%
30 years or more 71 24.57%
Other 22 7.61%
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Old 03-03-2019, 07:28 PM   #61
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20 years sounds about right. My Mom and Dad were retired for 33 and 36 years respectively, and they would have told you that was WAY too long. Iím not looking forward to my 90th birthday at all.
My mother is 102 yrs old and still living at home. I guess my 90th will come before I know it.
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Old 03-03-2019, 08:42 PM   #62
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"How long should your retirement last for you to feel it was worth sacrificing for?"

I never thought about it that way. In my early 30's, working for a megacorp, I set a goal to become financially independent and able to retire by age 55. My thinking was I wanted the option of to leave the workforce and live comfortably if I no longer enjoyed working or was forced to do so due to losing a job or health problems. By age 58 I was working for a small company and was unhappy in my job. I decided to retire and turned in my resignation. The owner of the company begged me to stay to help the firm through some legal issues he had caused by making what I thought were poor decisions. I agreed to stay for six months at which time he asked me to continue. I stayed another six months. One day I woke up, decided I was wasting my life, called him and told him I would not longer come into the office. I have not looked back.

Since leaving the working world, six years ago, my wife and I have enjoyed the home we built over a decade ago, our family, and traveling in the RV we bought a year before I retired. The RV experience has been much better than we anticipated because we've made many new friends on the road. Our life experience is truly richer for it. My only regret is the extra year I worked to help someone who didn't appreciate the loyalty and time I gave him and the company. I didn't need the money, didn't enjoy the work, and wasn't happy. I should have been selfish and left on my own timing.

To me retirement is a new stage in life's journey, not a payoff. I enjoyed most of my working years and received monetary, emotional, and intellectual compensation for the years I worked. Those years are behind me now and I'm much more aware of mortality today than I was during my working years. I'm in my mid 60's and hope to have at least 15 healthy and productive years ahead of me. My current goal is to make them as enjoyable and fulfilling as possible for DW and me.

I have no idea how many "good" years I have ahead of me. Perhaps one, perhaps 2-3 decades. I will be happy with however many years I have. I received a full return on my investment of time during my good working years. I can assure you I'm enjoying every minute today.
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Old 03-04-2019, 07:40 AM   #63
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I chose one year. I have worked for myself for the past 14 years doing work that I love, on my own terms. I have some chronic health issues and want to continue my work as long as I can. While I am excited at the prospect of retiring early, my perspective has changed a bit since the health issues showed up.
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Old 04-08-2019, 08:41 AM   #64
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20 years. It would be a shame to have spent all these years toiling away and saving and get any less than that. I know many wont get that at all but still.
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20 healthy years and I will be happy. 3 of my friends didn’t get that.
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Old 04-08-2019, 11:24 AM   #66
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"How long should your retirement last for you to feel it was worth sacrificing for?"

I never thought about it that way. In my early 30's, working for a megacorp, I set a goal to become financially independent and able to retire by age 55. My thinking was I wanted the option of to leave the workforce and live comfortably if I no longer enjoyed working or was forced to do so due to losing a job or health problems. By age 58 I was working for a small company and was unhappy in my job. I decided to retire and turned in my resignation. The owner of the company begged me to stay to help the firm through some legal issues he had caused by making what I thought were poor decisions. I agreed to stay for six months at which time he asked me to continue. I stayed another six months. One day I woke up, decided I was wasting my life, called him and told him I would not longer come into the office. I have not looked back.

Since leaving the working world, six years ago, my wife and I have enjoyed the home we built over a decade ago, our family, and traveling in the RV we bought a year before I retired. The RV experience has been much better than we anticipated because we've made many new friends on the road. Our life experience is truly richer for it. My only regret is the extra year I worked to help someone who didn't appreciate the loyalty and time I gave him and the company. I didn't need the money, didn't enjoy the work, and wasn't happy. I should have been selfish and left on my own timing.

To me retirement is a new stage in life's journey, not a payoff. I enjoyed most of my working years and received monetary, emotional, and intellectual compensation for the years I worked. Those years are behind me now and I'm much more aware of mortality today than I was during my working years. I'm in my mid 60's and hope to have at least 15 healthy and productive years ahead of me. My current goal is to make them as enjoyable and fulfilling as possible for DW and me.

I have no idea how many "good" years I have ahead of me. Perhaps one, perhaps 2-3 decades. I will be happy with however many years I have. I received a full return on my investment of time during my good working years. I can assure you I'm enjoying every minute today.
One day, I am going to wake up and not feeling to go to my office, I will send my boss an email and tell him/her that I am retired for good and will no longer show up in my office.
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The day after I retired in August 2016, I told my DW, "If I die tomorrow, just know I died a happy man." And although I didn't NEED to be retired to die happy, it certainly helps!

I still feel that way today (and voted that way) but I DO notice that the longer I'm retired, the greedier I become. I want more time to see the grandkids grow up, more time to travel with my DW, more time to golf, more time to wake up on a lousy, raw and rainy Monday morning (like this morning) and have an extra cup of coffee, just relax and be thankful and grateful!!
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At least half as long as I worked, but I'm shooting for as long.
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Retiring (in a few years) in my 50s, I chose 30. It's not so much that I feel I am "owed" that time because of what I've worked, but more I hope I get that time to enjoy the life and opportunity that I have struggled through the years to create. Like a finely written symphony, I want to be certain I hear the last note and get the applause. :-)
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I answered 20 but I really think 25 is more accurate.
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I retired in 2001, after a 20-year career in the US Navy. I have now been retired for 18 years. I will soon approach the day when I will have been on pension equally as long as I worked for it.
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I'm still pretty amused every time I see this thread pop up. I have this image of some of you meeting your maker and angrily yelling "Hey! You cheated me!"
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I retired in 2001, after a 20-year career in the US Navy. I have now been retired for 18 years. I will soon approach the day when I will have been on pension equally as long as I worked for it.

20 years in the Navy......Sir you earned that pension!

Thank you for your service.

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I retired in 2001, after a 20-year career in the US Navy. I have now been retired for 18 years. I will soon approach the day when I will have been on pension equally as long as I worked for it.


That is awesome. My goal is to collect more in retirement than I earned in 21 years on active duty.
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That is awesome. My goal is to collect more in retirement than I earned in 21 years on active duty.
That will take a long time.

My pension is only half of base-pay.

My base-pay was only like a third to half of my take-home pay.

So the pension is like a quarter of what my Active Duty take-home pay was.
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I'm going for 700 monthly pension checks...I just got my 12th, so 688 more to go... I also want to be the second to last person posting on this board...I'm pretty sure there's no outlasting FUEGO in retirement...He seems like he's got this retirement stuff nailed...

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One single day in good health .

Just go to Hospice or a nursing home and see those sometimes in their 40's or 50's .

I have seen many die before retirement or living in extreme pain , on the way to the grave.
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I'm trying to understand ... what we think is a reasonable exchange between our servitude and our independence.
I'm embarrassed to say that at first I didn't understand the question. After reading some of the responses, I still didn't understand the question. Upon further reflection, I think I've finally got it: the OP is proposing that a life can be conceptualized as a balance scale, with our working years piled on one pan and our retired years piled on the other. The OP is asking how much time needs to be piled on the 'retired' pan in order for the scale to balance.

The reason why I didn't initially understand the question is that I firmly reject the proposed conceptualization. Sure, my quality of life took a huge leap forward when I bailed out of megacorp 12 years ago, but that was because I hated practically everything about my living and working situation at that time. That wasn't always the case - some of my working years were awesome. And, the (semi-)retired life isn't all sweetness and light.

So, I'll just vote 'other' and move on ...
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I voted 20 yrs but that's only if I know I'm going to die and reflecting on life.

If I just drop dead then one day is enough (because 1) I made it! and 2) in my mind I have retired forever and that only changes if I know I'm going to die.).
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I have a hard time thinking in these terms, because I was never working for retirement, and my job, for the most part, felt meaningful and interesting, rather than some kind of drudgery or sacrifice for a later good. I also think that our time of death is something that is spiritually arranged and everything works out as it should in the grand scheme, so it will be okay if I drop dead in a couple years after retirement, although I'm not in any hurry.

To be honest, though, I'd probably feel some regret about not retiring earlier, if I died within the first 10 years. So I based my answer on that. I wouldn't feel cheated, though; it would just be a sense of personal regret.
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