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A 97-Year-Old Philosopher Faces His Own Death
Old 01-24-2020, 08:16 AM   #1
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A 97-Year-Old Philosopher Faces His Own Death

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Old 01-24-2020, 04:15 PM   #2
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That is a really sad video.

Would he have been better off living in an assisted living facility where he might meet some others to befriend? I don't know if there is a good answer, but I think I would need to be able to see others my age a few times a week at least. Of maybe he did not have the money to live in a really nice situation other then to stick with his current house? Or maybe he was just so used to and comfortable in his house.
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I think his decision to remain in his own home probably reflected more on his feeling more comfortable in familiar surroundings. It was, after all, where his memories of his late wife remained. But the loneliness and isolation was hard to watch. Alone at home, he could not really share with others the simple pleasures. There was no one other than his capable but very young caretaker. I am sure his son wished his father would accept assisted living where there were others of his generation to share stories with.
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I appreciate the link mhk7, I disagree with the first two responders. Granted it's sad, he has few peers but having the mental and financial circumstances of being able to stay in what appears as ones own home @ over 95yrs old is priceless. (jmho)

In most of the many other type elderly living situations available to those over 90 today you're a client whom already paid,w/no returns and a staff that's both lacking & gone after their 9-5 work day! IYKWIM

The average life span of NHome residents is about 3yrs.

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My mother-in-law will be 97 in February...She lives alone but each day one of her children bring her food, visit and do anything that needs done. She has been given every opportunity to live at nursing home but she doesn’t seem to want to go. I think she gets lonely but is afraid she’ll not get to see her kids as often as she does now.

I often wonder how she feels about dying but don’t want to ask so I watched the video. I’m hoping that when my time comes I’ll be accepting and full of wise thoughts!
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I enjoyed it. Not crazy about "just existing" but it does give a unique perspective about aging. SIL and Sister didn't get the chance to reach this point. Both passed in 2019, one at 60 and one at 64. Every day is a gift.
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I appreciate the link mhk7, I disagree with the first two responders. Granted it's sad, he has few peers but having the mental and financial circumstances of being able to stay in what appears as ones own home @ over 95yrs old is priceless. (jmho)

In most of the many other type elderly living situations available to those over 90 today you're a client whom already paid,w/no returns and a staff that's both lacking & gone after their 9-5 work day! IYKWIM

The average life span of NHome residents is about 3yrs.

Good Luck!
Note I didnít say he made the wrong decision. I am thinking there are some high end facilities that allow a degree of independence with perhaps a more stimulating environment.

Hopefully for us that is 20 years off.
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It is reality when we age and not always a pretty journey. He is very good at 97 and some are not so good.
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+1. The opening scene brought back my memories of almost two years ago, watching my mother die. But she died with late stage dementia. This guy could have had a much less lonely existence in an assisted living place. I just spent four days in one in southern California, visiting a friend, who is in her early 80s, but is experiencing dementia. She had been living at home alone. The assisted living facility gave her a chance to eat with different folks every night, to play cards, to socialize, to do art projects, and attend performances. She said she liked it much better than just staying at home alone. I'm sure it's not for everyone, and at ~$6K/month, it's out of the reach of many.
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