All this talk of reverse mortgages made me look, and I was surprised to find some well known names in the business, instead of just companies hawked by ex-actors.
Reverse Mortgage Fees Fall, but Still High
While this RM site suggests the initial cost is "only" 4.6% for their example. The 5% mortgage interest would compound and possibly eat into the remaining value over the years, unless one was lucky enough to be in a hot real estate market that lasted a long time.
We used a reverse mortgage to help MIL with routine expenses during her final few years of independent living. After looking at alternatives, the RM we found for her seemed like the best solution, all facts considered.
MIL was living in a nice condo in a nice building in a nice neighborhood and had made a number of good friends. She wanted very much to stay there.
Her only ongoing income was SS which for years she supplemented with modest withdrawals from her savings. As the bottom of the savings bucket came into view, we noticed she began to cut back spending in areas we were uncomfortable with such as groceries and personal items. We wanted to help.
So for some time DW and her siblings just gifted MIL some money every month. But the usual family dynamics slowly started to creep in. Who was giving how much? Who visited most often? Who provided miscellaneous help? And MIL, who was quite independent, wanted to regain her feeling of independence and arms length relationship with the kids regarding finances.
We found her a reverse mortgage that was a line of credit accessible via a checkbook. She paid her HOA fee and some utility bills from the checkbook and that seemed to fix her day-to-day money problems. A few hundred bux a month I guess.
When she needed to move into a NH, about one-third of the condo's equity (there was no mortgage) was consumed by the RM payoff. The remaining two thirds paid for 1.5 years or so of NH expenses and then she went on Medicaid.
The RM was certainly not the cheapest way to get her access to cash. But had it been cheaper, that would have only meant she would have been private pay at the NH for another month or two. This type of RM gave her a lot of independence to not feel she was relying on the kids. And DW and her sibs could consider whatever they provided for their DM as gifts and not obligatory payments they had signed up for. Much, much better family dynamics.
Like annuities, RM's have a long list of cons and a few pros. And you really need to understand the choices among RMs, the potential outcomes, and the benefits and traps of each type, the costs and all that. In our case, it worked fine as it gave DW's siblings and their DM an arm's length financial relationship between them all while solving the issue of not having their DM cut back on non-discretionary spending.
Sorry for taking the thread off target..........