Luck_Club
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Seeking input from those who may have crossed this path already-managing a parent with dementia from afar. The distance makes more than quarterly visits difficult, and I'm only in the area for half the year.
So my father is losing his mind, and he just doesn't care or want to help keep things in control. He has mobility issues, and I have help cleaning and keeping things generally up around the house. The help isn't trust worthy and has been suspected of pilfering groceries and shorting hours, until I added camera monitoring. however, no sooner do I solve one issue before another pops up that due to his diminished mental capacity, and un-trustworthyness of the help I have no way to verify.
Looking to replace the direct hired help with an agency (at more money), but not sure i'm not going to face the same issues a few weeks or months down the road when they catch on to his diminished capacity. The help is being replaced due to the fact that they aren't taking a burden off my shoulders but adding stress to an already stressful situation. I really don't need to be notified of every "accident" he has or every little minor issue that arises during the course of things.
I realize I'm prolonging the inevitable assisted living, but wondering if there is a that is it moment I should be looking for before pulling the plug. In my mind it is if he falls, or has something that sends him to the hospital for a stay.
So my father is losing his mind, and he just doesn't care or want to help keep things in control. He has mobility issues, and I have help cleaning and keeping things generally up around the house. The help isn't trust worthy and has been suspected of pilfering groceries and shorting hours, until I added camera monitoring. however, no sooner do I solve one issue before another pops up that due to his diminished mental capacity, and un-trustworthyness of the help I have no way to verify.
Looking to replace the direct hired help with an agency (at more money), but not sure i'm not going to face the same issues a few weeks or months down the road when they catch on to his diminished capacity. The help is being replaced due to the fact that they aren't taking a burden off my shoulders but adding stress to an already stressful situation. I really don't need to be notified of every "accident" he has or every little minor issue that arises during the course of things.
I realize I'm prolonging the inevitable assisted living, but wondering if there is a that is it moment I should be looking for before pulling the plug. In my mind it is if he falls, or has something that sends him to the hospital for a stay.