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Old 02-13-2020, 08:36 AM   #1
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We have quit shaking hands with others to avoid Flu

DH and I had a bad case of the flu last year even tough we had taken the flu vaccine and Tamiflu. I am a healthy 68 year old and was still very sick for about a month (had a lot of chest pain--doctor thought I probably had pneumonia). DH is also age 68 but has a compromised immune system due to taking Humira for psoriatic arthritis and was much sicker than me--he temporarily lost his hearing, sense of smell and taste--his hearing is permantly damaged by the flu. We are doing everything possible to avoid the flu this year--we had the vaccine in October, try to avoid sick people (but how do you know they are sick since you can be infectious before you show symptoms?), we wash hands constantly, use hand sanitizer, try to avoid touching surfaces, use the Neill Med Nettie pot every time we have been in public, etc. One thing the doctor suggested is to never shake hands with others. We have been doing this consistently (sometimes we offer the elbow bump but not the fist bump). Sometimes we get strange looks from others but when we explain the flu issue most people say that is a great idea. We are trying to get a no handshake policy implemented in our Church.

Anyone else quit shaking hands because of the flu?
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Old 02-13-2020, 08:46 AM   #2
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I haven't quit offering to shake hands as a firm handshake is a part of my preferred means of greeting others. At the same time I respect the wishes of others who choose not to.
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Old 02-13-2020, 08:54 AM   #3
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Yeah, this is a good idea for people who are getting older or have weakened immune symptoms. Also, make sure to get your flu shot.

I should stop shaking hands with people because with two small children in school, I get exposed to everything that is going around. I would work from home more, but my management has started discouraging that for some reason. So I'll bring it all in to share.
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When I have a cold, when presented with a hand to shake, I hold up my hand and say "I have a cold". Nobody has ever batted an eye.
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I haven't quit offering to shake hands as a firm handshake is a part of my preferred means of greeting others. At the same time I respect the wishes of others who choose not to.
DH was a firm hand shaker too so it has been a hard habit for him to give up. I have to remind DH not to shake hands--we actually had an argument about it but since he was the one who gave me the flu last year I told him I would "quarantine" myself from him if he did not quit shaking hands. So I won the argument and he quit shaking hands.
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Still, I bet DH would forget all about the flu if a beautiful young woman rushed up to him and gave him a big hug and kiss. LOL
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I've pretty much resorted to doing fist bumps as opposed to shaking hands and everyone accepts it fairly well.
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Still, I bet DH would forget all about the flu if a beautiful young woman rushed up to him and gave him a big hug and kiss. LOL
I'd make an exception as well especially if she was of ample bosom.
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I'm not exactly a Germophobe, but I do wish the hand-shaking custom would die out.

Especially when I go to see a Doctor. He/she's seeing some sick people, how 'bout we just don't shake hands?

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We shake hands at our church during the service. I've noticed many now just fold their hands together and simply say "peace be with you", without shaking hands. We've both also stopped taking the wine from the common cup.
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People don't even acknowledge me, let alone shake my hand.
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We've both also stopped taking the wine from the common cup.
Wine!?? What kind of wine? My church still passes out grape juice, so perhaps I need a new church!
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So if you are really serious about missing flu, we are careful about church attendance. IMO when you are retired church could be the number one exposure.

Here's what we do. I monitor the state flu sit as a flu cases start to really ramp up we stay at home until the needle starts to move down. All the church news and sermons are posted online so we read and watch online. The number one problem is people that won't stay home from church when they know they are sick.

Another yardstick I use is the number of people I hear coughing during the sermon. During the bad flu two winters ago my DH was waiting for a major cardiac surgery. I heard people hacking in front of us, behind us and to the side of us. We missed church for over a month but couldn't risk my hubby getting seriously ill before his heart surgery.

I feel like God understands!
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I'd make an exception as well especially if she was of ample bosom.
+1.... But I'm not so picky.... Doesn't have to be young (20's) or have ample bosom. Beautiful women that are at the "beginning" of middle age (~35+) and are of average build would be perfectly okay from my POV.
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I'm not exactly a Germophobe, but I do wish the hand-shaking custom would die out.

Especially when I go to see a Doctor. He/she's seeing some sick people, how 'bout we just don't shake hands?

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Iím pretty sure your doc hand washes between patients.
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Hey - the bow with a namaste (hands in prayer position held in front of face) is a nice touchless greeting!
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I'm into fistbumps. Sometimes high fives if the event warrants it.
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People don't even acknowledge me, let alone shake my hand.
No eye contact either, eh?
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I still shake hands, and push a grocery cart, but ASAP, I am in the restroom scrubbing my hands, and making sure I don't touch my face until I wash.
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