As far as I can tell, predominant among the relatively wide variety of travelers are hummingbirds and chameleons; hummingbirds flit from place to place with a predetermined checklist of 'must sees', while chameleons are slower, and attempt to blend into their surroundings.
We are of the latter group and try to absorb the atmosphere and character of a locale rather than keep score - we have friends who would likely fall into the hummingbird category; nice folks, but we wouldn't travel with them for long.
I agree that incompatible types like that shouldn't travel together, but I think you are mis-characterizing people not like you.
I guess you think listing places you've been as keeping score. I only did that to refute the poster who said you'd only see train stations and where you're staying if you travel that much. As I look at my itinerary plan, I see that in most places we didn't get to everything on the list of each city, unless it was very small and targeted, like the castles near Fussen so I'll dispute that checklist notion.
It's totally true that we had a list of places we wanted to see--not what others say we "must see" but what we wanted to see. Certainly if we're going to the Rhine Valley, for example, we're going to see castles, and focus on the popular ones because they are popular for the reason of being well preserved or bigger or more historic. A checklist? No, an organized list of what we'd
like to do, in order of preference and convenience.
If a place didn't really grab our attention, we'd leave. Why burn limited time when it doesn't interest us? Do we have to stay and hope something interesting will happen? Most common were places that were interesting enough to go through them, but not to spend extra time. And a few really did get our attention to spend extended time. I don't ever recall saying that we needed to leave a place to have time to see other things on our list; but I would say that if we wanted to see this other place we'd have to leave, but we have the choice to stay where we are and skip the other. It's not a checklist or keeping score as you say; I'd just rather see more things and get exposed to different things than try to absorb everything I could out of a few places. There were definitely times when we got to a new place and commented on how we were so glad we bailed on the previous place so we'd have time to enjoy this. And we didn't always have to go to a "place". A few times we just sat in a square or a sidewalk cafe having ice cream, a beer, or tea, and enjoyed the atmosphere, but an hour of that was plenty for us, not a whole afternoon, and not every day.
Sure, you could say that if we didn't keep moving around so much we would've had time to see everything we wanted, relax in a square every day, and also hang longer at places to give them a chance, but then we would've missed some places that we liked a lot more than we thought.
I like Rick Steves books and videos for travel advice, but one thing that bugs me is that he tends to shun the popular for the obscure. I remember a show on the Swiss Alps, where he featured a mountain dairy farm. I grew up in the midwest. Why in the world would I spend time and money to go to the Swiss Alps and look at cows? I want to go see the drop-dead views, even if it's a tourist site and I won't soak up the local culture nearly as much.
I understand people who want to do this; it's not for us. But I'm not going to characterize them with some semi-derogatory terms. Maybe you don't think you are doing this, but "flit" and "checklist" are pretty unflattering terms to use for a style you don't like.