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At Odds With Spouse/Covid Social Distancing
06-08-2021, 03:41 PM
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At Odds With Spouse/Covid Social Distancing
I am 67 and vaccinated.
She is 60 and vaccinated.
We have not been sick with Covid.
Now she wants to lower our guard only with "her family".
I want to stay safe and she has no regard for that.
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06-08-2021, 03:43 PM
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If you are both vaccinated, maybe it is time to live your best life while you still have it?
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06-08-2021, 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Sniggle
If you are both vaccinated, maybe it is time to live your best life while you still have it?
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+1.
We are both 66. Fully vaccinated (Pfizer). We are now living close to normal.
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06-08-2021, 03:50 PM
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We are both 59 and vaccinated. We hunkered down for a long time, saw family and did Thanksgiving and Christmas in the open air of the back yard only. Now that we are vaccinated, and my 85 year old parents are vaccinated, we pretty much live our lives as normal. Clearly, if we know someone is ill, we stay away, but otherwise, we are comfortable living our lives.
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06-08-2021, 03:53 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sniggle
If you are both vaccinated, maybe it is time to live your best life while you still have it?
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^ This.
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06-08-2021, 03:56 PM
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How will you know when it's safe to lower your guard?
For most people, it's being fully vaccinated. Sounds like you have your own criteria. Unless you share them, we can't evaluate them.
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06-08-2021, 04:08 PM
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Throughout the pre-vaccine stage, I've always thought it must be challenging for couples with very different risk tolerances, and that the more cautious partner should lead the way.
So OP it sounds like you are more risk-averse now than your wife? You say you want to stay safe, but isn't the vaccine doing that for you? I also think it's perhaps a little unfair to say she has no regard... I know if DH wanted to stay with our pre-vaccine caution measures I'd be getting really frustrated.
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06-08-2021, 04:10 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by RHONDAVE
I am 67 and vaccinated.
She is 60 and vaccinated.
We have not been sick with Covid.
Now she wants to lower our guard only with "her family".
I want to stay safe and she has no regard for that.
Anybody Else?
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What did you all think the vaccine was going to do for you, or not do for you?
You are both vaccinated, I agree with the others, live your lives. Leave the fear behind.
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06-08-2021, 04:12 PM
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We're in Vegas, and masks are almost a thing of the past except for employees.
We too are vaccinated.
Things back home are wide open, and the sick are minimal.
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06-08-2021, 04:15 PM
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Has her family been vaccinated? I would be most concerned with that.
If they have been, then I don't believe you should worry about it.
Notwithstanding, I can appreciate your hesitancy. Nothing wrong with being cautious until you feel comfortable with the situation.
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06-08-2021, 04:21 PM
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Live your lives. Figure out the emotional aspects of your fear, and look at the logic of leaving it behind.
I still wear a mask among strangers, and to protect those with various immune disorders, who cannot tell the rest of us about it.
Vaccination protects you, and prevents you from transmitting virus. Remember that your mask is to protect others and their masks are to protect you. And masks work 100% against the flu, not Covid. They help with Covid.
It sounds like you are more fearful than her, but she is still fearful. It's ok. Give yourselves some time.
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06-08-2021, 05:28 PM
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I take it neither of you has some auto-immune or other condition that could make the vaccine less effective?
If you're all good re: vaccine, why keep hunkering down? You are not kids. When do you start living again?
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06-08-2021, 05:36 PM
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Heck, during the pandemic my wife and daughter would regularly go out and do stuff that I thought was a risk... no amount of me complaining or yelling changed what they did...
Bottom line.... you cannot control what others do...
We are now all vaccinated and we are carrying on life as we did pre-pandemic...
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06-08-2021, 05:36 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sniggle
If you are both vaccinated, maybe it is time to live your best life while you still have it?
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+1, from my POV, it's way past time to get back to life.... But that's me.
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06-08-2021, 05:37 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by RHONDAVE
I am 67 and vaccinated.
She is 60 and vaccinated.
We have not been sick with Covid.
Now she wants to lower our guard only with "her family".
I want to stay safe and she has no regard for that.
Anybody Else?
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If her family is vaccinated it’s very very safe.
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06-08-2021, 05:39 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Sniggle
If you are both vaccinated, maybe it is time to live your best life while you still have it?
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+1
My DW was much more concerned about things pre-vaccination that I was, but once we were both fully vaccinated (we are both 63) she did not see a reason not to start moving towards normal in our social life.
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06-08-2021, 06:00 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by RHONDAVE
I am 67 and vaccinated.
She is 60 and vaccinated.
We have not been sick with Covid.
Now she wants to lower our guard only with "her family".
I want to stay safe and she has no regard for that.
Anybody Else?
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Is her family vaccinated?
If not, I can understand your hesitancy to be around them.
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06-08-2021, 06:04 PM
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Depends.
Is her family non vaxxers?
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06-08-2021, 06:11 PM
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Good question. I wouldn't want to have anything to do with anti vaxxers either.
And not because I was worried about covid.
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06-08-2021, 06:14 PM
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OP can you add a few more details? For example to what degree do you want to "stay safe"...there must be more to it then you have told us.
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