One takeaway from the pandemic ...

[harllee]

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Originally Posted by explanade What happens to meal service? Housekeeping?

Meals are delivered to my mother's apartment now(she gets 10 meals per week under her plan). Before the virus, meals were served in a large dining room. She has a kitchen and gets groceries delivered and cooks her other meals. She has housekeeping once per week but if she left the campus and went under the 14 day quarantine she did not get housekeeping during that time. Since our state went on Phase 2 there have been changes--she can now have visitors (but she has asked our family not to visit yet--some of our family has not been careful about the virus and she is afraid to have them visit her and I don't blame her) and she no longer has the 14 day quarantine after leaving the campus.

[explanade]

That sounds like fair rules by that particular facility. Good considering nobody probably had plans to deal with a pandemic.

[athena53]

Dad, age 89, is in a rehab facility after a stroke and will be moving to a skilled nursing facility. The rehab place immediately took his clothes and sanitized them before letting him wear them. He was just tested a week or so ago- negative. It was actually worse in his Independent Living Facility- no socialization, meals all delivered to his door in styrofoam.

Having seen Dad's slow slide downhill over the last few years as various bodily systems pass their "sell-by" date and having seen everything my siblings in the area have done for him- taking him to their places for dinner, bringing home-cooked food, taking him to the doctor, getting him to give up his car.... I cannot imagine expecting DS and DDIL to take me in or to do everything for me that I can't do for myself when I can no longer live independently. My primary financial goal is to provide for whatever care I need through the end of my life.

And if something like COVID-19 takes me out when I'm in the shape Dad is in, that's OK with me.

[harllee]

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Originally Posted by athena53 Dad, age 89, is in a rehab facility after a stroke and will be moving to a skilled nursing facility. The rehab place immediately took his clothes and sanitized them before letting him wear them. He was just tested a week or so ago- negative. It was actually worse in his Independent Living Facility- no socialization, meals all delivered to his door in styrofoam. Having seen Dad's slow slide downhill over the last few years as various bodily systems pass their "sell-by" date and having seen everything my siblings in the area have done for him- taking him to their places for dinner, bringing home-cooked food, taking him to the doctor, getting him to give up his car.... I cannot imagine expecting DS and DDIL to take me in or to do everything for me that I can't do for myself when I can no longer live independently. My primary financial goal is to provide for whatever care I need through the end of my life. And if something like COVID-19 takes me out when I'm in the shape Dad is in, that's OK with me.

I am so sorry about your Dad. I am so lucky my mom, age 88, is still in very independent and in good shape, still driving her car, before the virus was very active going out every day and doing all the activities at her CCRC. I hate she has been on "lock down" as has everyone but I am grateful her CCRC has taken such proactive steps. I speak to her every day for at least 30 minutes on the phone and sometimes by FaceTime.

[timo2]

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Originally Posted by kcowan I hope one of the outcomes of Covid is a thorough reform of how we care for older needy people.

+1

[audreyh1]

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Originally Posted by athena53 And if something like COVID-19 takes me out when I'm in the shape Dad is in, that's OK with me.

Yeah, basically when I’m at the point where I’ve lost my mobility and am bed bound and require a skilled nursing facility, longevity will not be a priority for me.

[explanade]

About a month ago, someone noted that the deaths were mostly over 65 and so on.

But even with underlying conditions, many of the ones who perished still had a life expectancy of 10 years if not for C19.

Or what if you were fortunate enough to survive it but you lost a lot of pulmonary function which might take years to recover?

Or renal failure?

Now if your mental faculties aren't completely there, like you had Alzheimers, then you may be oblivious to what's happening.