Last year in August 2018, I got married to a Filipina and brought her to Europe. At first I thought she was going to be a good saver the way she handled the money when we were travelling in Philippines.
But her attitude changed when she started working in Europe, moving to my country. She only wants to buy or do things to brag about how luxurious her life is here. Basically everything ends up as a successful life picture on Facebook.
3 weeks ago, her sister, 26 years old and been working for 3-4 years required surgery. She had gall stones. The surgery required roughly 3000-4000 USD, or roughly 60-75% of my wife's savings after a year. Only 25% of her lifetime savings would be left. I went for advice in Filipino investor groups, but they confirmed what I thought, that she could just as well get natural treatment, or it would be costly anyways going to a private hospital in Philippines. I told her sister she could try the natural treatment, but she wouldn't have it. Now she's been home for 3-4 weeks, without surgery. Even though we sent 500 USD as an advance deposit to get admitted.
Her dad stopped working the moment my wife started working abroad.
So 2 weeks ago, I had enough of it, I told my wife I was going to divorce her if her family had another emergency come up. We are already sending 175 USD to Philippines per month, they can easily get a job and work themselves out of poverty, or just save for emergencies like this.
Am I overreacting here?
Anyways, if we are to be divorcing, it's going to be in roughly 4-5 years. My prenup is protecting my savings anyways. By contract we are keeping how much money we are earning and splitting the ownership into the house according to the payment schedule of the mortgage. So my stake in the house is roughly 65-70% because I earn significantly more.
But her attitude changed when she started working in Europe, moving to my country. She only wants to buy or do things to brag about how luxurious her life is here. Basically everything ends up as a successful life picture on Facebook.
3 weeks ago, her sister, 26 years old and been working for 3-4 years required surgery. She had gall stones. The surgery required roughly 3000-4000 USD, or roughly 60-75% of my wife's savings after a year. Only 25% of her lifetime savings would be left. I went for advice in Filipino investor groups, but they confirmed what I thought, that she could just as well get natural treatment, or it would be costly anyways going to a private hospital in Philippines. I told her sister she could try the natural treatment, but she wouldn't have it. Now she's been home for 3-4 weeks, without surgery. Even though we sent 500 USD as an advance deposit to get admitted.
Her dad stopped working the moment my wife started working abroad.
So 2 weeks ago, I had enough of it, I told my wife I was going to divorce her if her family had another emergency come up. We are already sending 175 USD to Philippines per month, they can easily get a job and work themselves out of poverty, or just save for emergencies like this.
Am I overreacting here?
Anyways, if we are to be divorcing, it's going to be in roughly 4-5 years. My prenup is protecting my savings anyways. By contract we are keeping how much money we are earning and splitting the ownership into the house according to the payment schedule of the mortgage. So my stake in the house is roughly 65-70% because I earn significantly more.