Rich_by_the_Bay
Moderator Emeritus
Need some feedback.
I saw an older lady in my office today about to undergo major cancer surgery, lots of medical complications, etc. She was accompanied by her 30-something daughter, by appearance and demeanor quite the take-charge type. After introductions, the daughter asked if I minded if she recorded the entire visit, pulling out her Sony digital recorder.
I offered that sometimes that can make things feel a little more formal or inhibited than otherwise, but if that is what Mom wanted, I would agree. Mom consented. I would add that I always try very hard to have good communication, encourage questions both during the visit and later by phone; indeed I pride myself in that. Tears are not uncommon, and unstated fears often get stated for the first time in this setting (I work in a major cancer referral hospital).
Frankly, I didn't like it. Normally my visits are warm and at ease, free interplay, lots of nonverbal communication. With the Sony, I found myself choosing my words carefully, avoiding humor, and generally feeling stiff and inhibited. Superficially, I am sure her main justification was that she not miss something important, but written notes have always solved that problem nicely.
About half way through, she ran out of tape. Within two minutes, Mom was teasing me about my tie, and the rest of the visit went very well. I am quite aware that there is a sense of activism and take-charge with doctors nowadays, but... I kind of felt like the intimacy and 'sanctity' of the visit were compromised when the recorder was running.
I wonder how you all feel about this. If it catches on, I might have to FIRE early . I'm questioning my reaction.
I saw an older lady in my office today about to undergo major cancer surgery, lots of medical complications, etc. She was accompanied by her 30-something daughter, by appearance and demeanor quite the take-charge type. After introductions, the daughter asked if I minded if she recorded the entire visit, pulling out her Sony digital recorder.
I offered that sometimes that can make things feel a little more formal or inhibited than otherwise, but if that is what Mom wanted, I would agree. Mom consented. I would add that I always try very hard to have good communication, encourage questions both during the visit and later by phone; indeed I pride myself in that. Tears are not uncommon, and unstated fears often get stated for the first time in this setting (I work in a major cancer referral hospital).
Frankly, I didn't like it. Normally my visits are warm and at ease, free interplay, lots of nonverbal communication. With the Sony, I found myself choosing my words carefully, avoiding humor, and generally feeling stiff and inhibited. Superficially, I am sure her main justification was that she not miss something important, but written notes have always solved that problem nicely.
About half way through, she ran out of tape. Within two minutes, Mom was teasing me about my tie, and the rest of the visit went very well. I am quite aware that there is a sense of activism and take-charge with doctors nowadays, but... I kind of felt like the intimacy and 'sanctity' of the visit were compromised when the recorder was running.
I wonder how you all feel about this. If it catches on, I might have to FIRE early . I'm questioning my reaction.