Not really wanting to burst your bubble, but we took our mom on a tour of Assisted Living places. She picked one out. We moved her in. They kicked her out before the end of the first month due to her aggressiveness towards the other residents (if someone was sitting at a table she wanted to sit at, she drug their chair with them sitting in it to another table, plus yelling, name calling, etc).
So we waited a few months. She again announces she wants to move into an Assisted Living place. We tour. We pick one. We move her in. She was kicked out in 2 weeks due to her unfiltered behavior (loud, obnoxious, hit people, would lay down on the floor right in front of the doors to the dining room to do exercises thus blocking the doors so nobody could enter/exit).
So then we try again with a 3rd place. The first two were large and very fancy upscale places. Since too many people seemed to be overwhelming for her, we then tried a small "group" type home. She only lasted 2 days before they called me. She went in the kitchen and was arguing with one of the staff who was trying to get her to leave the kitchen as she wasn't allowed in there. She grabbed a pan of grease and poured it on the stove thus setting the kitchen on fire (not to mention continuing aggressiveness and abrasiveness towards residents and staff alike).
Then she tells me she knows just what to do in the future to make sure she gets kicked out of places. And smirks at me. Keep in mind, nobody forced her to go to any of these. It was her choice.
We finally resorted to in-home aides for a few months but eventually they could no longer handle her either. She hit. She kicked. She called them horrible names that I cannot repeat. She would sit on the couch and chant "I want chocolate" for hours on end. Just try listening to someone say that to you 20 times in a row and then imagine it continuing for hours. By now, she basically no longer ambulatory and is incontinent.
She was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for a couple of weeks and then moved into another large, upscale place but was put on the skilled nursing level where they could better deal with her. She only lasted about 6 weeks before passing away.