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Dear friends, I have found this site to be full of extremely intelligent people and I am now turning to you for help.
My 73-year-old handicapped mother who lives alone and was doing fine for the last 7 years recently had a terrible manic bipolar episode in which she completely ruined her credit and her life. During this time, she lost her job, gave away her vehicle, started remodeling her house by charging up credit cards, putting a $15k roof on (twice what it should cost), a $13k shabby shower remodel, and she cussed out her family for trying to intervene and threatened to call the police when we did, and to top it off she suffered from hypothermia during a freeze because she had taken her thermostat off the wall. If I didn't go check on her (against her wishes), she would have surely died. She didn't know where she was, what day it was, or even who I was when I found her. I immediately called 911 and she was taken in and later transferred to the Psych department for treatment for her mental disorder.
Long story short, she's home now and not doing well but she's no longer manic and is surviving. She lost much of her mental capacity and can no longer work or make financial decisions. I am left in charge of her both financially and for her physical well-being and I now have Power of Attorney. She has no savings and she makes $1,200/month in social security and a small pension. Her debts or over $110k ($55k home loan and $65k in medical, IRS and credit card bills), her house is worth around $160k. She doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything at all and there aren't any family members who can take her in.
Here's where I need some advice, in regards to her financial mess - she can't make the minimum monthly payments and the fees and interest are adding up fast. How important is it to pay off the medical and credit card debt anyway? At her age and current state, I don't see her going anywhere or needing good credit for anything. She no longer drives and doesn't work, so she's basically just living out her final years. She has the home mortgage and IRS debt that must be paid or she'll lose the house, but the others are what I'm unsure of. Someone suggested she file bankruptcy, is that a viable and better option? What about those debt consolidation services? I've read some bad reviews recently, so I'm not sure.
Thank you in advance for your help in this dire matter, I greatly appreciate it.
My 73-year-old handicapped mother who lives alone and was doing fine for the last 7 years recently had a terrible manic bipolar episode in which she completely ruined her credit and her life. During this time, she lost her job, gave away her vehicle, started remodeling her house by charging up credit cards, putting a $15k roof on (twice what it should cost), a $13k shabby shower remodel, and she cussed out her family for trying to intervene and threatened to call the police when we did, and to top it off she suffered from hypothermia during a freeze because she had taken her thermostat off the wall. If I didn't go check on her (against her wishes), she would have surely died. She didn't know where she was, what day it was, or even who I was when I found her. I immediately called 911 and she was taken in and later transferred to the Psych department for treatment for her mental disorder.
Long story short, she's home now and not doing well but she's no longer manic and is surviving. She lost much of her mental capacity and can no longer work or make financial decisions. I am left in charge of her both financially and for her physical well-being and I now have Power of Attorney. She has no savings and she makes $1,200/month in social security and a small pension. Her debts or over $110k ($55k home loan and $65k in medical, IRS and credit card bills), her house is worth around $160k. She doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything at all and there aren't any family members who can take her in.
Here's where I need some advice, in regards to her financial mess - she can't make the minimum monthly payments and the fees and interest are adding up fast. How important is it to pay off the medical and credit card debt anyway? At her age and current state, I don't see her going anywhere or needing good credit for anything. She no longer drives and doesn't work, so she's basically just living out her final years. She has the home mortgage and IRS debt that must be paid or she'll lose the house, but the others are what I'm unsure of. Someone suggested she file bankruptcy, is that a viable and better option? What about those debt consolidation services? I've read some bad reviews recently, so I'm not sure.
Thank you in advance for your help in this dire matter, I greatly appreciate it.