Thanks. I flea bombed the house this morning. Also the crawl space and me and my plumber buddy will fix a broken water pipe on Tuesday. Meeting with a lawyer tomorrow re: the car and house. I told nephew and niece to not expect anything. Dialysis scheduled for tomorrow has been pushed to Tuesday morning. Liver is basically gone. Saw my sister today in pain. She told nurse 10 out of 10. Pointing to her liver area. I will see the palliative care doctor tomorrow and push for hospice. I have decide to do everything in my power to NOT move here even for a few months. I have doctor appointments back home I need to get to along with a few other commitements. DW and I WILL go to Roaton on our dive trip the first week of September. Betting my sister will be gone by then. We'll see. Thank you all for the comments and suggestions. I'm good. Working out every day while I'm here.
I have decide to do everything in my power to NOT move here even for a few months. I have doctor appointments back home I need to get to along with a few other commitements.
Dialysis scheduled for tomorrow has been pushed to Tuesday morning. Liver is basically gone. Saw my sister today in pain. She told nurse 10 out of 10. Pointing to her liver area. I will see the palliative care doctor tomorrow and push for hospice.
Such a tragic outcome for everyone. You might think you are good, but realistically how could you be good? You are getting all the feels from every direction. Take care of yourself and God Bless you and your sister.
So even if they push for you to provide 24 X 7 hospice care, if it were me I would refuse to accept the release. Be emotionally prepared that it is possible they may try to make an unreasonable demands on you and make you feel guilty for not solving their Medicaid care patient problem for them.
Well, I'm 6'6", 250 combat vet. I was a bouncer for many years. My favorite word is "NO". Sometimes I proceed that word with "HE!!". I will literally walk away and block my phone and email. Then if the hospital/facility pushes her on the street I'll sue. In all seriousness, it looks like things are proceeding down the expected path. Facilty reached out to me today. The admissions lady and I seem to be on the same sheet of music. They know that she has nothing(not even a bank account) except the house and car.
Hey Bigdawg,
Been following along and wondering if your sister is near me (Fayetteville, AR).
Yesterday I dropped off paperwork at the nursing home they want her to go to. The deed to the house and the personal property tax statement. We were suppose to meet with the lawyer today at the hospital. I put it on hold. #1. Nursing home told me not to do a trust. It might hold up admission and/or medicaid application. I think (so does lawyer) that is b.s. but I want/need my sister out of the hospital and into that facility before I leave town on Wednesday. #2. Not really seeing the upside to the trust. She only has the house (needs to be condemned) and a car worth maybe 7k. Maybe her SS disabilty checks would go into the trust also. Not sure. Setting up trust would cost me $1800. I would control it and would be able to extract my expenses. Is it worth it? I'm really not seeing it. A big hassle I think. If no trust then house and car will go into probate when she passes. My nephew is local. He can deal with that.
She did well again yesterday on dialysis. What does that mean? IDK. Still has shot liver and kydneys. Quality of life will suck for her. Cannot imagine her ever being a candidate for transplant. I will see palliative care doctor today hopefully and get a clearer picture. #1 priority is to get her out of that hospital and into the nursing home. Looks like I found a home for the cat.
What does it mean that you’ve given the deed to the house to the nursing home? Is there something written about what they will do with that?
I'm thinking it means the nursing home wants proof, the sister has assets as the cost of the nursing home is a lot , my experience is ~100K -> 140K for "reasonable" place per yr.
A lot of nursing homes won't take a person in who has zero assets.
Places I looked at wanted a minimum of $300K or 3 yrs worth of assets, they will also take nearly all SS except for ~$100/month towards the payment.
Yesterday I dropped off paperwork at the nursing home they want her to go to. The deed to the house and the personal property tax statement. We were suppose to meet with the lawyer today at the hospital. I put it on hold. #1. Nursing home told me not to do a trust. It might hold up admission and/or medicaid application. I think (so does lawyer) that is b.s. but I want/need my sister out of the hospital and into that facility before I leave town on Wednesday. #2. Not really seeing the upside to the trust. She only has the house (needs to be condemned) and a car worth maybe 7k. Maybe her SS disabilty checks would go into the trust also. Not sure. Setting up trust would cost me $1800. I would control it and would be able to extract my expenses. Is it worth it? I'm really not seeing it. A big hassle I think. If no trust then house and car will go into probate when she passes. My nephew is local. He can deal with that.
She did well again yesterday on dialysis. What does that mean? IDK. Still has shot liver and kydneys. Quality of life will suck for her. Cannot imagine her ever being a candidate for transplant. I will see palliative care doctor today hopefully and get a clearer picture. #1 priority is to get her out of that hospital and into the nursing home. Looks like I found a home for the cat.