Recent content by Shegens

You know, sometimes just talking it out with similar aged people helps. My doctor said I keep way to much inside and I need to let it out. I don't trust people I know enough to spill my guts to them so I keep it in. You all have really helped. Strangers have an unbiased look at problems and...

No, he knows about it. He just doesn't have the mental capacity to understand it. I had a major panic attack at work recently after working 84 hours at a time for two or three months. The over time was forced. There are no labor laws in TN. We were told to do it or quit. My blood pressure...

No, there are only two things that would make me do that. 1) he beat me or 2) he ran around on me. He has never done either of those and he has been a good husband, except for the early marriage control freak problem that I finally broke him from. He is just old-fashioned and I am not. He...

I know. I guess that I'm looking for support to convince me that I can do this. I also feel a little guilty about causing him to do without some of what he is used to having. One time he will tell me to do what I want to and when I start to do it he starts bringing up all the reasons I...

I have no idea. He would never talk about me retiring. Probably never or at least until I'm 65 or so.

You are a very lucky man. My husband hates discussing money and budgets but he will always talk to me about any large expense before he does it as do I, especially after he borrowed money from the bank without asking if I could afford the payments and the bank loan officer let him do it without...

For the first few years we were married, I was afraid. He has never been physically abusive but he was very verbally abusive. He was extremely jealous and there was no reason. He was also a control freak. Even then, all I did was work, all the time. I am a very independent person and didn't...

I think the one that retired first is insecure when it comes to the other one retiring. When my husband retired at 55 it was 7 years before he could draw SS at 62. We had the farm almost paid off before he retired so he used his 401K to pay off the rest. I told him that doing that was the...

I looked into the survivor's benefits on the SS site and will get a part of his SS but I didn't tell him because nothing I say would look good. :laugh: I did tell him that he is beneficiary on my Savings Plans and I have a $250,000 Accidental Death & Dismemberment policy that I took out after...

I forgot to mention that I have discussed trading one of the trucks for a small economy car. I won't buy anything that doesn't get 40+ mpg. We need to keep one truck for farm stuff but we don't need two.

Exactly! We had a heated discussion the other day about this. I told him that I have been working full time since I was 17 and now I am three, almost four, years older than he was when he retired. I said "it's my turn!!!!". I just don't want to retire and be more miserable than I am...

Actually, his driving is pretty good. It's his memory that he has trouble with. :)

Right now, the cost of insurance in 2014 is my main concern and possible deal breaker. It's been a while but when P&G took over we had plant meetings about retiree insurance and what would happen. Apparently Gillette agreed to let people over a certain age and seniority keep the Gillette...

LOL, one thing he does that really helps is that he keeps both lawns mowed and we have a lot to mow. My daughter and granddaughter both live on the farm and he mows their yard and ours since my daughter works the same place I do and we work all the time. Lately we have let neighbors mow our...

:coolsmiley: That thought has crossed my mind lately but after he retired he had a terrible auto accident that almost killed him and left him with short term memory loss. Sometimes I'm not sure he realizes how much he drives. He can't remember that he already gone and come back. He has days...