I have a friend that is married to a person with Huntington's disease. The spouse thinks he has good judgement but he has a plan to use all of his 401k to buy 15 acres of wooded land in a resort community. He plans to cut down trees himself and build himself a house. The acreage is next to his brother's property and his brother is encouraging him. The brother wants to save up to later buy five of the acres in the future.
About three years ago he went on disability because he could not physically handle his part time job in a nursery. He took early Social Security and only has a small income.
He has no money other than about $1700/month SSI and the $120k in his 401k. My friend has a house with a mortgage and her own SSI and 401k. She has her house in something called a Lady Bird Trust. They are 65 (wife) and 64 (husband).
My friend has no intention of going with him and would like to stop his financial actions. How can she present this to his doctor to get control of his finances.
I am trying to help her as much as I can with getting information.
They go to couples therapy but he refuses to discuss the details of his land deal.
A few months ago he connected his 401k account to a porn site and was racking up charges. I told her how to change his password so he could not access from the porn site email link. That seemed to work for that specific problem.
The last time my friend spoke with his doctor, the doctor said he was not there yet. I think she should build a case to show the doctor how unreasonable his plan is. To be clear, he plans on cutting down each tree and building a house. The area is a resort community in the Ozarks. Even if he could physically do this he would need money for tools, materials, permits, etc.
Thanks for any help.
About three years ago he went on disability because he could not physically handle his part time job in a nursery. He took early Social Security and only has a small income.
He has no money other than about $1700/month SSI and the $120k in his 401k. My friend has a house with a mortgage and her own SSI and 401k. She has her house in something called a Lady Bird Trust. They are 65 (wife) and 64 (husband).
My friend has no intention of going with him and would like to stop his financial actions. How can she present this to his doctor to get control of his finances.
I am trying to help her as much as I can with getting information.
They go to couples therapy but he refuses to discuss the details of his land deal.
A few months ago he connected his 401k account to a porn site and was racking up charges. I told her how to change his password so he could not access from the porn site email link. That seemed to work for that specific problem.
The last time my friend spoke with his doctor, the doctor said he was not there yet. I think she should build a case to show the doctor how unreasonable his plan is. To be clear, he plans on cutting down each tree and building a house. The area is a resort community in the Ozarks. Even if he could physically do this he would need money for tools, materials, permits, etc.
Thanks for any help.