AJA has a date with a widowed woman tomorrow evening! Needs advice....quickly please!

[aja8888]

Again, live streaming his date would be a most excellent suggestion.
Unclear how we could set that up on short notice, but I'm a newbie at that sort of thing...

With these darn phones we all carry, I would bet the whole date will wend up in some server farm somewhere.

 

[aja8888]

You sure got people excited here Aja!

Yeah, it's way better than the Active Investing threads these days!

 

[aja8888]

Thank you all....lots of great advice here and things for me to think about.

 

[athena53]

Another thought: do not tell her you think she's "spry". My surgeon described me this way and I took it as somewhat of a compliment but to me it means, "You're Real Old but you get around pretty good".

By the way, dating is different at this age. I read that for younger people that things are expected to become.. intimate.. by the third date. We don't have to rush it!

 

[aja8888]

Another thought: do not tell her you think she's "spry". My surgeon described me this way and I took it as somewhat of a compliment but to me it means, "You're Real Old but you get around pretty good".

By the way, dating is different at this age. I read that for younger people that things are expected to become.. intimate.. by the third date. We don't have to rush it!

I won't tell her she is spry. I only used that term here. She is very active and also walks a lot like I do. Your advice on intimacy is totally understood.

 

[badatmath]

Asker always pays IMO. Also, IMO, it isn't a proper date if you don't pick her up. Meeting is fine if it is you randomly picked them off an app (however that works) but I'd expect to be picked up and walked to my door afterwards and not dumped out of the car like an Amazon parcel.

 

[street]

Thread is way more interesting then talking about money and SS.

 

[TheWizard]

Asker always pays IMO. Also, IMO, it isn't a proper date if you don't pick her up. Meeting is fine if it is you randomly picked them off an app (however that works) but I'd expect to be picked up and walked to my door afterwards and not dumped out of the car like an Amazon parcel.

Nowadays, most of my Amazon parcels get delivered right to my front door, with a picture to prove it!

 

[aja8888]

Thread is way more interesting then talking about money and SS.

The followup Monday may be even more interesting!

 

[Dawg52]

Barney has a couple of dating tips.

 

[joesxm3]

Maybe put your phone on vibrate or mute during the date.

 

[aja8888]

Barney has a couple of dating tips.

LOL!

 

[aja8888]

Maybe put your phone on vibrate or mute during the date.

I will turn the thing off!

 

[FlaGator]

You sure got people excited here Aja!

The best news I've seen here in a long time!

 

[CalBird]

The followup Monday may be even more interesting!

The followup Monday update will probably draw more attention than Fed December rate cut decision.

 

[Mr. Tightwad]

Somebody make a poll. We can vote the outcome. Such as:

Things went great!

Things weren't so great.

Aja now has a black eye.

 

[Alan]

Thread is way more interesting then talking about money and SS.

+1

No advice from me aja I just wish you all the best on your new venture.

 

[Dtail]

Good luck. Interesting thread.

 

[Amethyst]

Sort of.
But when you're new at it after a few decades, there can be awkward issues.
I went through this after a divorce some years back...

I hadn't dated since 1985. More recently, the awkwardness all seemed to be on the other side....but that was online, and OP already met her in real life. OP willl be fine. Just don't spill your dinner in your lap, as one of my dates did, long ago.

 

[Dtail]

I hadn't dated since 1985. More recently, the awkwardness all seemed to be on the other side....but that was online, and OP already met her in real life. OP willl be fine. Just don't spill your dinner in your lap, as one of my dates did, long ago.

Or dinners with sauce or using hands.

 

[Ronstar]

This looks like a good place to share the dating advice that I recently gave to my niece's 15 yo son. These tips come from years of discussion amongst us guys in high school.

But I'm not sure if any of it will be applicable to AJA's situation. (maybe parts of no 5)

1. Assess the girl's mother's looks, mannerisms, etc. A girl usually ends up acting and looking like her mother, so the mother's current characteristics are a good indicator of what the girl will be like in the future.

2. Can the girl cook? Get invited to dinner by her family. Preferably get there early enough to see if/ how well the girl is helping prepare the meal. Extra points if the girl prepares an excellent meal entirely by herself.

3. Is her family rich? If so, whether or not the girl can cook is less important. If she's rich, she can take you out for dinner.

4. Is she smart? Having extra qualified help with your homework is a good thing.

5. Be sensitive to her feelings. If she's having a bad day, buy her some flowers or do/buy something nice to cheer her up. Always be doing things to make her happy. A great way to score points with the girl and her mother. And chances are that they will invite you over for dinner more often.

 

[street]

The followup Monday may be even more interesting!

Can't wait!!!! In Detail!!!! Lol

 

[old medic]

Just be you.... And listen to who she is....
Pick up the check, if she offers just say she can pick it up the next time...
Best of luck Tiger

 

[VanWinkle]

The conversation will tell you if she is really a match to take serious. If she is easy to talk to, don't make it one-sided. I've been where you are, and met a great lady. We are still together after 5 years and enjoying life.

 

[FREE866]

I just want to publicly state that this is arguably the greatest thread in the history of the internet