Another pointless (family) rant...

[disneysteve]

The invite says, in so many words, that black tie/tux is optional.

Exactly. “Black tie optional” would have been the more concise way to state the dress code.

 

[Midpack]

The invite says, in so many words, that black tie/tux is optional. I've attended a couple of these in the past and my black suit was fine. I have no idea what DW wore, but some sort of black dress. I don't think you need to rent a tux, and I have a very strong suspicion that your very attendance would be appreciated.

If you’re addressing the OP, the invite is most certainly not ‘black tie/tux optional’ as I’ve posted in subsequent posts. They want all the men to wear a tux, but they’ll accept a black suit. Why would we want to go for the least acceptable of the choices we’ve been given? It’s their wedding, hopefully for life.

 

[easysurfer]

Black tie dress code makes it feel almost more like a funeral than a wedding.

 

[Teacher Terry]

I see in later posts that at least the reception is not outside, which is good. Maybe it’ll rain and they’ll have to have the ceremony inside too.).

 

[aja8888]

I see in later posts that at least the reception is not outside, which is good. Maybe it’ll rain and they’ll have to have the ceremony inside too.).

It never rains at weddings, except at my daughter's affair!

 

[disneysteve]

If you’re addressing the OP, the invite is most certainly not ‘black tie/tux optional’ as I’ve posted in subsequent posts. They want all the men to wear a tux, but they’ll accept a black suit.

That's black tie optional. A tux or a dark suit.

 

[disneysteve]

Black tie dress code makes it feel almost more like a funeral than a wedding.

Have you never been to a formal wedding?

 

[Midpack]

That's black tie optional. A tux or a dark suit.

 

[disneysteve]

Sorry. I may have missed a post. You said tux or black suit. That's the definition of "black tie optional". Did they say something other than that?

 

[Midpack]

Sorry. I may have missed a post. You said tux or black suit. That's the definition of "black tie optional". Did they say something other than that?

They've made it clear they want all the men in tuxes - the exact language was in post #1, but there are others references on their website. If they didn't care at all, it would have said black tie optional, it does not.

But if you've accepted their invitation, and care about their wishes on their wedding day, IMO we should all make every effort to show up in a classic black tux. Showing up in a black suit knowing that's not what they want borders on spite IMO. Again, this is their day...

 

[RetiredHappy]

It never rains at weddings, except at my daughter's affair!

Was she having an affair?

 

[aja8888]

Was she having an affair?

Yes (with her boyfriend only), and then they got married....

 

[brett]

If you are going to resent the entire event then why even bother attending or complaining about it. Why sweat this one or end up wringing your hands over it for days.

Make a decision. Smile and go. Or pass on the event.

Seems very straightforward to me.

 

[Midpack]

If you are going to resent the entire event then why even bother attending or complaining about it. Why sweat this one or end up wringing your hands over it for days.

Make a decision. Smile and go. Or pass on the event.

Seems very straightforward to me.

I said as much a while ago…posts #13 and #35.

 

[Diyernh]

If you're not doing something else that's better, go. Sometimes the event is the best memory you will have. If it's the worst, then just let it pass. Always say yes. Later on, you won't be able to.

I missed one wedding, it was on a private cruise in NY. I'm sorry I missed it. The boat messed up the tide chart and couldn't dock to unload. They didn't plan on being on the boat for hours. The bar ran dry, food was gone and moral was dropping. They were within throwing distance from the dock. They were sending food and bottles to the the boat by loading into bags and throwing them. Yes, some shrimp ended up in the ocean, but enough made it for the party that continued for hours.

 

[EastWest Gal]

It never rains at weddings, except at my daughter's affair!

My sister's wedding-it rained for days. Near Seattle, June
My niece's graduation-it rained for days. Tacoma, June
My niece's wedding-it poured but only after we all were at the reception. Near Mt. Rainier-September.

 

[Teacher Terry]

It never rains at weddings, except at my daughter's affair!

It poured at my second wedding and my grandma that was almost 90 fell outside the church. Luckily she wasn’t hurt and was able to go to the dinner and reception.