Are you capable of being okay with lazy? I’m learning to!

Evolved? More like it's just there, no evolution needed. I was OK with working for a living and doing other things I have to, but I have long been well adapted to doing nothing. :) And as I get older, my patience for work and even things like house work are fading - I wonder if I'll be able to afford a maid? I would make an awesome lotto winner.
 
I suffered a diagnosis of multiple stress fractures in my left foot in 2001,right after I purchased a 4 unit apartment building. While in a boot for 8 weeks, I took care of all long term maintenance issues there and at my duplex. After 6 weeks, I got caught up in a lazy mode, everything was caught up, and I was able to coast, Fast forward 10 years, same thin occurred, was caught up after 4 weeks. Really enjoyed the downtime. Had rotator cuff surgery repair, got caught up again, and enjoyed my rehab. 2 years later, repair on other rotator cuff and I never went back. I am running at 50% full steam from that moment 10 years ago. Excuse me while I get a glass of my 2021 Grenache......
 
Winemaker said:
I suffered a diagnosis of multiple stress fractures in my left foot in 2001,right after I purchased a 4 unit apartment building. While in a boot for 8 weeks, I took care of all long term maintenance issues there and at my duplex. After 6 weeks, I got caught up in a lazy mode, everything was caught up, and I was able to coast, Fast forward 10 years, same thin occurred, was caught up after 4 weeks. Really enjoyed the downtime. Had rotator cuff surgery repair, got caught up again, and enjoyed my rehab. 2 years later, repair on other rotator cuff and I never went back. I am running at 50% full steam from that moment 10 years ago. Excuse me while I get a glass of my 2021 Grenache......
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Heh, heh, you do more with your infirmities than I used to do when I was fully functioning. At least now that my body is falling apart, I finally have an excuse for being lazy.


(Don't over do!);)
 
A few years back my DD was giving me grief for being lazy in my recliner and watching TV.... I had ignored it for awhile but one day I got upset...

I said 'listen, I worked my ass off when I was young so I COULD just sit my ass here and watch TV'... I described when I had to work 100 to 120 hour weeks.. when I had to work 6 days, then 7 days a week.. how I saved etc. etc... she never brought it up again...
 
No such thing as lazy days, only days when I do less than next to nothing.
 
No problem!

Even though I did get our and wash all of the exterior windows on Wednesday. So much brighter!
 
I'm totally fine with being lazy. I don't have trouble shifting gears when there are things to do, but then I do like some downtime after.
 
I can remember when I was young my mom complaining about my Uncle's DW... she would call and try to talk... but the lady would say something to my mom...

My mom finally said to me one day 'that lady can only do one thing in a day'... well, I am trying to adopt this for me... DW does not like it but I try!!!
 
Texas Proud said:
I can remember when I was young my mom complaining about my Uncle's DW... she would call and try to talk... but the lady would say something to my mom...

My mom finally said to me one day 'that lady can only do one thing in a day'... well, I am trying to adopt this for me... DW does not like it but I try!!!
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I find myself asking the question "What's the worst that can happen if I don't do this today?" Mostly, the answer is "nothing." But I do try to do one specific thing per day and that seems to satisfy my need to achieve "something." YMMV
 
Yeah I don't have a problem being lazy, but to a point - eventually I want to do - SOMETHING. I can't just watch TV or whatever all day. It doesn't have to be anything amazing, but something to remind myself I'm alive.
 
Badger said:
I can't. I just can't. I get out of bed early in the morning. I always have. Daylights burning and there are things to do and I don't want to miss anything. As I get older the mornings are for projects, repairs, honey-do, feeding the animals, and exercise. By noon I am usually too tired to continue so I do a little light reading and take a "nap". Don't necessarily sleep since the monkey in my head keeps thinking of new things to do.
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That's me, too. My life is still pretty structured. I'm compulsive about getting in enough exercise and other physical work to meet calorie burn goals (well, I like to eat). I have a semi-flexible cleaning schedule in which every room in the house gets cleaned from top to bottom every 2 weeks. I maintain the church web site and newsletter and do a ton of other stuff, including cleaning the building once a month and writing a sermon every couple of months. I donate plasma and/or platelets once a month. I'm studying Swedish on-line- first stop in a trip that starts Monday. The key with all of this is that few of these are fixed commitments with set times. I LOVE not being tied to a schedule. I do take the occasional afternoon nap. I've been letting the weeds in the garden go because it's too darn hot out.

But occasionally I can hear my late DH saying, "I think you're a little busier than God wants you to be". ;)
 
Koolau said:
I find myself asking the question "What's the worst that can happen if I don't do this today?" Mostly, the answer is "nothing." But I do try to do one specific thing per day and that seems to satisfy my need to achieve "something." YMMV
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Well said! If I get one “thing” done per day, I feel accomplished.
 
While I'm sure there will be do-nothing days, I hope to live in retirement how I do on weekends now: try to either do something productive or something fun.
 
What a great topic. This is one that my wife and I have been discussing for a while. I pretty much did nothing but read, hike, and rest for around a year when I finally stopped all forms of paid work. This year, I have really enjoyed getting involved in working at a food bank, but I still have lots of time to rest, think, etc. I felt as though it took me a couple of years to really decompress after working hard and raising kids. Many people seem to feel that they *should* be doing something productive most of the time--the Protestant work ethic is alive and well. My best advice for people starting retirement is to just give yourself as much time as feels good to do whatever you want. If that is productive, great. If its napping and reading a lot and spending a lot of time hiking your dogs (my situation), also great. Doing nothing is incredibly recharging.
 
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Igby said:
What a great topic. This is one that my wife and I have been discussing for a while. I pretty much did nothing but read, hike, and rest for around a year when I finally stopped all forms of paid work. This year, I have really enjoyed getting involved in working at a food bank, but I still have lots of time to rest, think, etc. I felt as though it took me a couple of years to really decompress after working hard and raising kids. Many people seem to feel that they *should* be doing something productive most of the time--the Protestant work ethic is alive and well. My best advice for people starting retirement is to just give yourself as much time as feels good to do whatever you want. If that is productive, great. If its napping and reading a lot and spending a lot of time hiking your dogs (my situation), also great. Doing nothing is incredibly recharging.
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This is very helpful.

No matter what, I love not being tied to a schedule as others have said.
 
I got so bored with being lazy I got a part time job. When I get home I feel like I have a reason to be lazy now.
 
Unfortunately, I’ve always been much too talented at being lazy.

These days I try to do some part-time contract work, but my client insists that I update some certifications first. Unpaid of course, and I just cannot motivate myself to work on it. I’ve spent way too much time in my office, not getting the work done, but also not doing the things I want to do like biking, hiking, etc. (Watched way too many yootoob videos though!)

At some point I may just give up and say, I guess I must be retired, and quit fighting it.
 
GaryInCO said:
Unfortunately, I’ve always been much too talented at being lazy.

These days I try to do some part-time contract work, but my client insists that I update some certifications first. Unpaid of course, and I just cannot motivate myself to work on it. I’ve spent way too much time in my office, not getting the work done, but also not doing the things I want to do like biking, hiking, etc. (Watched way too many yootoob videos though!)

At some point I may just give up and say, I guess I must be retired, and quit fighting it.
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I would tell client certification means nothing... I can do the work.. you can either hire me or not...

And if you insist on certification, I will get it but you pay my time and expenses since it is a you thing...

I am sure they will refuse and you can get on with your life...
 
I like to have a lazy day to relax and read. 2 days a week for the past 2 months I have been decluttering my friend’s apartment. She can only sit on her walker and decide what to keep or get rid of.

I used a cart because she lived in an apartment building. I got to know the thrift store workers really well. I have been absolutely exhausted and decided I’m too old to do this again for friends.

I quit the hoa board 5 months ago and through a series of weird events went back on and am now the president. That will be busy as we are facing some big issues.

I have another volunteer commitment that I probably won’t renew in a year when my term is up. I also joined a new group and in January committed to helping once per month at their luncheon. Since finishing my friend’s apartment I now have a few days a week with nothing planned which I’m enjoying.
 
GaryInCO said:
Unfortunately, I’ve always been much too talented at being lazy.

These days I try to do some part-time contract work, but my client insists that I update some certifications first. Unpaid of course,
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Wait...you're doing work for free and they're whining about certifications? lol I'd be out of there so fast and as I left saying "have fun paying for someone certified."
 
It's been too freaking hot to be outside after 10am since the end of June. Next three days we'll above 100 with low of mid 70's. I'm up and outside by sunrise, so I do get some chores in, maybe 4 hours before it's sweltering.
 
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