Best friend just died suddenly

Sorry for your loss. Any of us could have a ticking time bomb about to go off within us and have no clue it’s coming. A good reminder to appreciate every day.
 
It is so hard, when a person so close to you dies. It does seem like a piece of your life goes too. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs
 
My condolences to you. We all face these losses and it never gets easier even though such losses are more expected as we get older.

Remember the good times. The pain will eventually fade but the memories will be sweeter as time goes by. Blessings
 
So sorry for your loss, and sorry for his family. Loss and grief is so hard to go through, hoping you'll all be comforted by good memories.
 
Very sad for you and your husband. I wish everyone involved my sympathy.
 
My sincere sympathy to each and everyone of you as you mourn his loss. It takes time to heal.
 
So very sorry for your loss Pacergirl. 68 is way too young. You said unexpected-was there anything of note? Like high BP, cholesterol? Share the good memories/stories with your husband. I'm sure there are so many with a 50 year friendship.
 
So sorry for your loss. Life is short. Shorter for some than others. Don't wait.
 
I'm still grieving my BFF who died a year and a half ago, also very suddenly. It does get better with time. Now I laugh more often than cry when I think about his jokes and his off-the-wall antics and all the stories he had to tell on himself.
 
easysurfer said:
I used to think about this a lot. Dying suddenly or a long drawn out decline. Like everything else, pros and cons to each. Suddenly and there is no chance to say goodbye and get your affairs in order. Long drawn out and there is the change to say goodbye and get things in order, but the suffering must be miserable.

I trying not to think this way that much anymore as I try to cherish my time left. Be good to others. Live a life of integrity.

Yet, I do pause at times and think, darn, the hourglass is having less and less sand. For example if I buy something new like a major appliance or car, I think to myself those things may outlive me.
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Why does time move so slowly when we are young and so quickly when we get old? The best answer I ever heard (or read) was that when you are young you have far to go so it takes a long time. When you are old you don't so time flies.
At 56+tax I have less time ahead of me than behind me. How much is anyone's guess.
I have also used appliances, cars, jobs, heck even some pieces of clothing as measuring devices. As in, I think I have about 3.5 cars left in my life. Or I might be good for 2 refrigerators. It is a strange way to view life for sure.
 
Very sorry for your loss! I lost my BFF in 2017. He was 66. He went to hospital for cold/flu/pneumonia symptoms, and died 8 days later with esophageal cancer.
 
I’m very sorry for your loss.

During my 20+ years of work, I became good friends with my boss and her husband. He passed away in October at 68. I’m keeping tabs on my boss. She’s doing pretty good, considering. It’s just so young and the brutal swiftness is hard to handle. She was 5 months from retirement. Ugh. My thoughts are with you pacergal.
 
Sorry for your loss.

Try to remember how lucky it was he didn't have to suffer a long time.

When I was still in school my friend's father had a couple of major paralyzing strokes and lived another 20 YEARS unable to move (much) or speak. It was a miserable situation for everyone.
 
pacergal said:
Wow, late last night received unwelcome news. One of the couple (our good friends who've in California that I frequently mention) passed away last night.
He and DH have been friends since HS, he was like a brother. I have known him and his DW for almost 50 years, met just out of HS.
He was out shopping with his wife, felt ill, ambulance called, he had a sudden heart attack and was unable to be revived.
We are in a state of shock. His 68th birthday is tomorrow.

We have traveled frequently with them, the guys were in each others weddings. Heck, we each got married two months apart, same year. Our two kids were born same months/same years as two of theirs! Our families have vacationed at the beach and in the mountains together when the kids were young.

I grieve so much for the loss in our lives and the lives of his family. He was their rock. He gave the BEST bear hugs! DH and I have been crying off and on all night.
They have another grand baby due next month. The circle of Life continues. I rejoice that he is with God. But my heart is hurting.
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I am so sorry.

Any thing I can do to help ?
 
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Purslane said:
Why does time move so slowly when we are young and so quickly when we get old? The best answer I ever heard (or read) was that when you are young you have far to go so it takes a long time. When you are old you don't so time flies.
At 56+tax I have less time ahead of me than behind me. How much is anyone's guess.
I have also used appliances, cars, jobs, heck even some pieces of clothing as measuring devices. As in, I think I have about 3.5 cars left in my life. Or I might be good for 2 refrigerators. It is a strange way to view life for sure.
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Time surely does seem to go by faster as we are older. The hourglass with sand falling through is an optical illusion. When the hourglass is full, it looks like the sand if falling at a slower pace than when the hourglass is almost empty. Yet in actually both are falling at the same speed.
 
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