CCRC vs Age in Place

[harllee]

Regarding the trolleys--my CCRC owns a bunch of them stationed at the various entrances available for residents to use so there is no need to buy one. So check with your CCRC before you buy one.

 

[nwsteve]

We have trolleys as well but they are all kept near the lobby on first floor and our garage is at other end of building. We are on floor 5 and at other end of building(over garage). No surprise most of the residents just get their own,

 

[Katoslake]

We’ve helped and/or cared for 2 people with Alzheimer’s, 1 person with vascular dementia (looks similar), 1 with mild-moderate cognitive impairment and 1 that had his wits, but wasn’t ambulatory. They all thought they could age in place. They all initially refused significant help. Besides the one that died, none of them could manage their affairs nor age in place.
This is rarely a linear progression and is very often unpredictable. I’m amazed at how many people think that it won’t happen to them.
Heres hoping those folks are correct !

 

[RetMD21]

When they moved to the CCRC, the parents in law wanted single story living and freedom from house and yard maintenance. They were very active and had a lot of friends their age, some living at the CCRC. They would have missed out on a lot if they moved away at that time. Driving for visits with the children and grandchildren was not a problem. As the years passed, the friends died, driving became a problem, and they needed help that they weren't getting from the CCRC.

I can't make some of the grandchildren understand that there was good reasoning behind going with a CCRC with a type A contract. It completely alleviated their fear of running out of money due to nursing home costs. At 90 and widowed, and in hospice MIL’s last year was in the nursing home wing of the CCRC. In retrospect, her savings could have funded a year or two in a nursing home closer to her children but the CCRC buy-in was non-refundable and they all found giving it up to be inconceivable.

I’m more of a fan of flexibility. Age in place until you can’t and then find a situation that better suits you.

 

[misanman]

We've known at least two couples who moved multiple times to be near their kids. South Dakota to Illinois to Michigan and Michigan to California to Arizona to Tennessee. As others have said, the kids have their own lives and will often move for a new job or promotion.

 

[aja8888]

We've known at least two couples who moved multiple times to be near their kids. South Dakota to Illinois to Michigan and Michigan to California to Arizona to Tennessee. As others have said, the kids have their own lives and will often move for a new job or promotion.

That's crazy!

 

[harllee]

Have these parents who keep moving to be near their kids ever thought that maybe their children are moving purposefully to create some space away from their parents? I know I never wanted to live too close to my parents. I loved them but I needed my space.