Did you ask permission to get married?

[kgtest]

I think after dating now in-laws DD for almost 7 years, the more "ceremonial ask" was out of tradition. I can't remember if I had talked it over whether I should with DW, but I know DFIL always opens the door for MIL, and I try... so perhaps asking permission would be the right thing to do.

DW did not know I was going to propose to her. DMIL jumped out of her boots as I sort of asked both at the same time. She said "YES! YES! YES!"

Green light, go!

Married happily for a while now.

 

[Handymike]

Got married in 1968. Asked her Dad for his permission even though I was in the Army at the time. He thought about it ( a long time ) and said yes. In California at that time my Mother had to sign for me since I was under 21 at the time. ( 20 )

 

[folivier]

We were both out on our own with full-time jobs. We didn't ask for permission but DW did ask her older sister because she was older. Seemed a bit ridiculous to me at the time but DW felt that older sister would get upset because she wasn't dating anyone. BTW older sister got married 2 years ago. Glad we didn't wait.

 

[wmc1000]

I didn't ask for permission, but with our 3 daughters, 2 of the 3 husbands did ask permission.

 

[junkanoo]

Sadly, my wife's dad passed before we were dating. So, I don't know for sure, but I doubt that I would have asked his permission as I'm not big on ceremony for ceremony's sake.

In golf, a son-in-law golf shot is one that's 'not exactly what you wished for, but it will do.'

My golf buddy found out his daughter was dating someone in the golf business. He asked what he did and she said ... "I think he cuts grass or something." Turns out he was a Golf Course Superintendent at a club in the Monterey, Cali area. My friend went out there and this boyfriend got him (and played with him) out on San Francisco Golf Club, Olympic, and Cypress Point (all tough gets). He then told his daughter, "either you're marrying this guy or I am."

 

[RetiredHappy]

Sadly, my wife's dad passed before we were dating. So, I don't know for sure, but I doubt that I would have asked his permission as I'm not big on ceremony for ceremony's sake.

In golf, a son-in-law golf shot is one that's 'not exactly what you wished for, but it will do.'

My golf buddy found out his daughter was dating someone in the golf business. He asked what he did and she said ... "I think he cuts grass or something." Turns out he was a Golf Course Superintendent at a club in the Monterey, Cali area. My friend went out there and this boyfriend got him (and played with him) out on San Francisco Golf Club, Olympic, and Cypress Point (all tough gets). He then told his daughter, "either you're marrying this guy or I am."

... and if his daughter is not marrying him, I will marry him too!

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

I was recently watching a segment from John Delony. A caller called in and said he asked her dad two times now if he could marry his daughter and both times he said no.

Is that still a thing people do? Or, was that something more people did back in the day?

I did not ask for permission to get married. Some like to call it a blessing/respect. Even back when I was engaged around 25 years old, I always thought it was weird to ask for permission. What if they said no...do you not get married. Or, would you lay out a game plan on how to make yourself look better so future FIL would approve of you. I don't get it.

My take is...why would a grown adult need permission from a grown adult to marry a grown adult? Let that sink in

I did that with my first wife. She rolled her eyes and hope you wouldn't say anything about her prior three marriages cuz she told me she was only married once. There's a song that really makes me wonder about contradictions where the guy says he asked his girlfriend's dad for her permission to marry her and then says he's going to do it anyway when he said no. What was the point again in asking him?

 

[Car-Guy]

Just asked the DW.