Kings over Queens
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It's an interesting discussion. In my family there is no expectation of any significant transfers.
My parents (early 80's) are divorced and none of us (me plus 3 siblings) anticipate any money from my father. No idea about my mom. My in-laws granted my wife their condo to balance the scales from when my brother in law received a lot of cash to buy a house. They have some cash too but we're hoping they spend it. I suppose we could see some of that plus the condo. I really hope they spend the cash, but my mother in law doesn't listen to me.
Of my siblings, I'm the most financially secure, as are our kids when compared to their cousins. I suspect my brother in law is good, he and his wife have good jobs, but I don't pry...none of my business.
Our kids don't expect anything from us but are seeing that we are now turning the gift spigot on. 2 of the 3 resist or reluctantly accept gifts, the other one is happy to receive. My daughter got mad at me when I told them I forgave their student loans. we had a deal that I'd front college and they would pay me back 50% after they graduated. I told them we were square and she literally got mad at me..."why would you do that?" She accepted my reasoning and was cool with it but her reaction remind me of well, me, because I would not have wanted that. I had a similar discussion when I bought her a car. It was beyond a gift, she had earned it, and there is no reason for me to sit on the money until we die.
My parents (early 80's) are divorced and none of us (me plus 3 siblings) anticipate any money from my father. No idea about my mom. My in-laws granted my wife their condo to balance the scales from when my brother in law received a lot of cash to buy a house. They have some cash too but we're hoping they spend it. I suppose we could see some of that plus the condo. I really hope they spend the cash, but my mother in law doesn't listen to me.
Of my siblings, I'm the most financially secure, as are our kids when compared to their cousins. I suspect my brother in law is good, he and his wife have good jobs, but I don't pry...none of my business.
Our kids don't expect anything from us but are seeing that we are now turning the gift spigot on. 2 of the 3 resist or reluctantly accept gifts, the other one is happy to receive. My daughter got mad at me when I told them I forgave their student loans. we had a deal that I'd front college and they would pay me back 50% after they graduated. I told them we were square and she literally got mad at me..."why would you do that?" She accepted my reasoning and was cool with it but her reaction remind me of well, me, because I would not have wanted that. I had a similar discussion when I bought her a car. It was beyond a gift, she had earned it, and there is no reason for me to sit on the money until we die.