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My mom is 94 and fell two weeks ago. She lives independently after my dad passed 5 years ago at home with heart issues. She got early stage of dementia but rather good health. My sister is her main caretaker with a recent POA. My brother and I would stopped by several times a week to help with the house and cleaning etc. After a week from the hospital with internal bleeding controlled and fractured pelvic but not recommended surgery instead weight bearing PT then released to nursing home. Yesterday her situation deteriorated quickly to heart rate of 140 with Afib, cannot speak, and not eating. Attending doctor advise us either return to the hospital or hospice care. After a short discussion among us, it is clear that hospice is the best path forward. Then the nursing home director advised us that Optum will not pay for hospice as it is considered LTC. The current facility is $11k a month and he gave us agents to look for other hospice facility in the range of $4k/ mo. Going back to the house is not an option at this time. Also finding out that mom’s bank account is at $90k so she would not qualify for Medical, we are in So Cal. Leaving voicemails to several recommended agents. I’m finding out a whole new world of hospice coverage out there, mostly in a private home and seems little accountability. So with my mom at 94 I realized it’s inevitable but still feeling overwhelming and any suggestions appreciated!