How To Have A Happy Retirement: 4 Secrets From Research

Boy, just not enough time in a day to get all the activities I love to do.
I know many that just retired and sat maybe no plan or just didn't have the self-motivation.

I saw sadness and body decline in those people sooner than it should of been.
 
The article notes that peasants didn’t retire; true enough. But artisans, craftsmen and the like, would have a lifecycle of going from apprentice to journeyman to master, in the final stages becoming what today we’d call a small business owner. Their lives were more about administration and something akin to portfolio management, than daily toil. Then there were the gentry, who served in the military or the state bureaucracy, until some age when they indeed retired. And finally the clergy, who as it were, started their careers already retired.

A vast difference between now-and-then, is that the lower classes didn’t retire… they couldn’t; whereas the upper classes, did… and early (by modern standards!), too. Now, what we term the lower classes retire as soon as they’re eligible. But the upper classes – the folks with the plum and remunerative jobs – hold on, well into their 70s. Present company excepted, those who are most able to retire, are least interested in doing so.

Surfeit of choices is stressful! Today, we have more choices… and in that sense, more stress? Did I retire too soon? Not early enough? Should I relocate in retirement? Or is the grass on the other side, no greener? Am I too stingy? Too profligate? To focused on the future? Too insecure? Asking too many questions? Centuries ago, we didn’t have this problem. We had manifestly other problems, but… not this one!
 
19 years and still happy with FIRE. No major activities (limited travel except to and from the mainland each year.) But we have friends in both our old life and our new life. Lots of people to see, things to do. Never bored. Life is good. Shooting for 36 years of retirement (since I w*rked 36 years.) Heh, heh, I'm not putting a lot of money on whether I'll make it that long, but life with goals is better than no goals. YMMV
 
"Think about what actually fulfills you — not just in a “this is pleasant” way, but in a way that makes you feel alive." -- This is the crux of it for me. I'm starting my second FIRE year, so it'll be interesting to see how it goes. I'm doing pretty well with this so far, though I can get worried with down time sometimes.
 
This morning, I took the dog for a hike on a trail that has hundreds of people on the weekend. I had it to myself on a Monday morning when everyone else is back at work.
After trying to go to early voting this weekend and finding lines over an hour long, we went on Monday AM. In and out of voting in 5 minutes! Yes, retirement does have its advantages and we are learning how to use them!
 
7 years in, haven't had a dip yet. Still having fun.
 
Think I'm doing well overall. As a single guy, building/maintaining social connections does require constant investment. Friendships ebb and flow and many of my friends (especially the ones I value the most) are paired off with partners and I don't get to see them as often as I would like. - If/when, I find my partner, I'd likely see them more as we'd do more couples activities together. I have quite a few friends and acquaintances and am engaged in several group activities each week but just a few friends that have deeper connections - fewer than is probably ideal.
 
Retired 10 years ago, at 54. I did go adrift some. I remember thinking back on an early trip after retirement that was "supposed to be fun" and feeling it was kind of empty.

Happiness is complicated (Khaneman's "remembering self" and "experiencing self"). And we have the problem of hedonic adaptation. What sometimes helps is negative visualization. That's a habit I've been working on. It's got to be something you do consistently or it's not very effective.
 
Retired 10 years ago, at 54. I did go adrift some. I remember thinking back on an early trip after retirement that was "supposed to be fun" and feeling it was kind of empty.
I discovered that several things I had really looked forward to doing in retirement quickly fell by the wayside once I retired. We found new more compelling interests instead. I gave myself permission to experiment.
 
Hi, not posted on here for about 3 years now. I retired in the summer of 2021. Wife still works and has no plans to retire anytime soon. I certainly don't miss work one bit! Even though I'm married I'm a bit of a loner.

I've noticed that I don't have so many friends since retiring, I think it's because I'm not in daily work, I also think some people that I used to be in regular contact with are actually jealous! I have a few friends and keep in touch with a few ex work colleagues. I've been on a major fitness drive this year and have lost approx 35lbs since the spring. Really pleased with that, don't need any more indigestion pills which is great. I have more energy, I walk through countryside a lot and swim twice a week. Losing weight and getting in shape has been a really profound thing to do. I'm quite proud of my achievement this year.

I live in the outer suburbs of London, travel abroad is very easy and I've been on 4 European trips so far this year. Finances are quite good and if I need anything I buy it, bought a 3 year old car last year which was a major purchase for me!

I do get bored sometimes, UK weather doesn't help, often cloudy here. Never gets particularly cold but it rains more than I'd like. I ought to do regular trips to Spain which is only an hour or so flight south and weather is so much better.

Any ideas how I can fill my bored spells?
 
Many have pointed out that successful happy retirement is much easier when you didn't/don't define yourself by your career.

I've said it here numerous times. When I was working quality of life was going out the gate, not in the gate. I liked my job, but liked my time away from work better. 7 years happy retired so far and looking forward to many more.
 
I am semi-retired, so I am fortunate to have a balance contribution and, whenever possible, doing diddly until 11 am.
 
Regarding the bolded: I feel that I've had many ecosystems. Work was just one. Family is another. Being a Marine (USMC) you have the whole Marine Corps, then you have your unit, then you have your individual Marine buddies. Worked post Corps for 9.5 years at a couple different jobs. Never felt those were my ecosystem. Additionally, I've been umpiring baseball and officiating volleyball for over a decade. Felt the Corps was an ecosystem that hasn't gone away since retiring from active duty. Actually, heading out to Vegas to celebrate our 249th birthday at the Leathneck club. Basically, it has all overlapped for me. College football and basketball pre-Corps was another ecosystem of sorts.
Have a Great time in Vegas! Semper Fi
 
Hi, not posted on here for about 3 years now. I retired in the summer of 2021. Wife still works and has no plans to retire anytime soon. I certainly don't miss work one bit! Even though I'm married I'm a bit of a loner.

Any ideas how I can fill my bored spells?
Are there volunteer opportunities to take advantage of there? Are there groups of retired folks that you can join to do activities with? Hobbies like reading? Take classes at a University on a non-credit basis? These are some of the things that I do.
Gotta go finish my assignment for my Communications During the 2024 Election Cycle class tomorrow.
 
Many have pointed out that successful happy retirement is much easier when you didn't/don't define yourself by your career.

I've said it here numerous times. When I was working quality of life was going out the gate, not in the gate. I liked my job, but liked my time away from work better. 7 years happy retired so far and looking forward to many more.
Exact opposite scenario here. I rarely (if ever) liked my jobs, but I did like my career. The job/work itself was drudgery and kowtowing to idiots... not entirely, but often enough. The career however had transcendent and archival meaning. If I could have a career without having a job, that would be the goldilocks compromise!
 
After trying to go to early voting this weekend and finding lines over an hour long, we went on Monday AM. In and out of voting in 5 minutes! Yes, retirement does have its advantages and we are learning how to use them!
Yeah, I've heard it said that in retirement, everyday is Saturday. It's closer in truth to say that everyday is Monday!
 
Are there volunteer opportunities to take advantage of there? Are there groups of retired folks that you can join to do activities with? Hobbies like reading? Take classes at a University on a non-credit basis? These are some of the things that I do.
Gotta go finish my assignment for my Communications During the 2024 Election Cycle class tomorrow.
I'm considering some voluntary work, I'm not old only 61 so going for tea with pensioners doesn't really suit me at my age. Learning something new would be a good idea, keeps the brain ticking over nicely. I do a fair bit of gardening in the summer months. Maybe I should accept that doing less is not such a bad thing. I used to work 5/6 long days a week and if I don't do much in retirement I feel as if I'm wasting time. Hardly watch TV at all.
 
I retired early to take care about my parents 93 and 89 at that time who could not live independently anymore. Therefore, I do not have a spare time al all to think about issues we are talking about here. Am I happy in retirement? I don't think so. But I feel I'm doing an important job and I'm very satisfied. My dad passed away after a short illness this spring. It made my situation a bit easy. But my mom developed a terminal stage dementia and currently I'm again in tough situation. She does not have long term care insurance, and memory care for her would be terribly expensive. To sum it up: consider yourself lucky if you are not in my situation, and find happiness within yourself.
 
I had kids under roof when I retired. So I was still busy and my household happiness/unhappiness went up and down with the rollercoaster of teen/, pre teen drama. I will say our household happiness increased when the kids were both off at college, lol. I don't think any dips in happiness had anything to do with retirement state, but I was thankful that not having to go to work gave me the bandwidth to deal with the kids.

Late to parenthood combined with early to retirement made me not fit the blog narrative.
 
I had kids under roof when I retired. So I was still busy and my household happiness/unhappiness went up and down with the rollercoaster of teen/, pre teen drama. I will say our household happiness increased when the kids were both off at college, lol. I don't think any dips in happiness had anything to do with retirement state, but I was thankful that not having to go to work gave me the bandwidth to deal with the kids.

Late to parenthood combined with early to retirement made me not fit the blog narra

Similar, in that my happiness / unhappiness has gone up and down with life events rather than the retired state. The most unhappy times in my life, thus far, were while I was working and did not involve employment.

I was a bit nervous about retiring, but took to it like a duck to water. I retired in December of 2021 and very much appreciate the freedom and ability to choose my daily activities. I do not fit the mold of what the author describes but have not noticed a dip in happiness related to not working.
 
When I retired 13 years ago I read a book about retirement that did a survey that found that about 1/3rd of retirees were unhappy/unsatisfied with retirement. This blog says the same.
 
The only slight unhappiness was during covid when we were grounded. Otherwise it has been a very good 13 year retirement. Fortunately we are both in good health.

I thought that it was only 10 years or so. Time goes by.

I reject all the expert advice, etc. I really do think that it is different for everyone. The trick is to keep your health and do whatever floats your boat. The rest is noise level.
 
I love the freedom. I hate getting up and having to do anything. That includes trim, shower, and even make an appointment on time

I move from the bed to the kitchen for coffee. My first 2 hrs. are spent sipping coffee, surfing, and thinking about what I want to do! Actually, what to do is the problem...

I couldn't go back... No way.
 
I love the freedom. I hate getting up and having to do anything. That includes trim, shower, and even make an appointment on time

I move from the bed to the kitchen for coffee. My first 2 hrs. are spent sipping coffee, surfing, and thinking about what I want to do! Actually, what to do is the problem...

I couldn't go back... No way.
Ha! I have my cycling, which I used to do before my second-shift j*b, but now I can take mornings slow as you say, then have longer bike rides. (Or soon, when the weather will now get lousy, do whatever thing I decide to do.) I do like that coffee-and-breakfast time.
 
Retired at 49yo. Transition was a challenge due to caring for father, moving across country and my own physical ailments. Not to mention a loss of identity and profession. Two years later it's finally getting better. Anxiety is manageable.

Today, my father is settled, now living in North Carolina and physically feeling much better. (Damn Covid Vaccines). Decided to maintain licensure by going back to work part time. This has helped with the identity crisis. Issue is, it feels like work, and not how it is in the article. Plus, loss interest in the profession.

In the future, I most likely return to school to strive for yet a new degree. This is will be a post graduate masters being of service to others versus the stress of the operating room. This may be my calling.

Retirement has stressed my relationship.for sure. She is still working and planning her retirement. She sees me as lazy despite my busy retirement schedule. She thinks I left before my best earning years. This is true, but she does not know the other side. Perhaps in the future she will, or not.
 
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