Right after I turned 40, I realized that I was in the same boat as you are. During the process of figuring out what I was going to do, I also evaluated what was important to me and what wasn't. I came to realize that except for possessions that had sentimental value (family pictures, things that my father had made and given to me, etc.) none of the stuff that I owned meant anything to me. Most of it was just junk that I had wasted my money (actually, my life, considering that money = my time) on. The only things that were really important to me were my family, my health and my time.
Accordingly, I made some changes to my lifestyle and spending habits. A few years down the road, things started to look better. I'm 47 years old now, and things look much better. Things don't look as hopeless as they once did.
Two years ago, I wrote a book about the changes I went through and what I did to make things better for myself and my family. And not to give my book a shameless plug, well OK, I'll give my book a shameless plug...
The title is: "I'm in Debt, Over 40, With No Retirement Savings. HELP!"
It's available on Amazon, if you want to check it out.
Remember that you've got plenty of time left to create a retirement nest egg and that even if it's a little late, you're much better off starting something now, rather than doing nothing.
John