Is this a form of suicide?

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For Christmas I got the DW a Swiffer spray mop ... got a laugh along with the "look"
Well on Wednesday she will be waking up to a new coffee maker... our 40th anniversary...
If I dont post any after the 15th........
 
WADR - forgetting even the swiffer, nothing more creative than a coffee maker for the 40th?
 
We give each other a smile, love you and that's about it. After 40 years, birthdays and anniversaries are just another day. In fairness, we count the vacations which happen on any day of the year. Any big expenditure for wine, beauty treatments, new TV, car are the gifts we give to ourselves and each other.

If I got a Swiffer for a Christmas gift, I'd hand it to him and say "go for it."
 
Heck, we were in St Lucia for our 40th. That was after scrambling for a replacement trip to Spain, Portugal and Morocco when COVID hit in 2020. St Lucia was one of the few places open for tourists. It was an awesome trip, they were so thankful for the business.

This year for out 45th its Greece, Egypt and Turkey. We already have a coffee maker and DH makes the coffee.
 
rembrandt said:
Not for me. It is a(not so subtle) way of telling someone that they are out of shape.
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I’m pretty sure it was in jest.

I did just give my DW a new toilet for her birthday. Hey, she hated the old one. To make amends, we spent a few days at the Broadmoor so my death might be postponed for now.
 
On our 40th, I was dealing with a major health issue. No present/dinner out that year. Looking forward to 45th to do better. As for gifts, Swiffer, coffee pot, doesn’t really matter after 40 years. I assume most of us have run out of unique gift ideas by then. I know I have. We realize it’s a blessing to be in this position, but we pretty much have anything we want. Nice dinner or trip is about all I can think of going forward.
 
marko said:
So is a surprise membership to Weight Watchers.
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Rianne said:
We give each other a smile, love you and that's about it. After 40 years, birthdays and anniversaries are just another day. In fairness, we count the vacations which happen on any day of the year. Any big expenditure for wine, beauty treatments, new TV, car are the gifts we give to ourselves and each other.

If I got a Swiffer for a Christmas gift, I'd hand it to him and say "go for it."
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We'll celebrate our 55th year od marriage in 2-months with lunch or dinner at Olive Garden and maybe a movie. We stopped giving actual gifts to each other decades ago. Just having her by my side is gift enough and I know she feels the same.
 
We bought each other a coffee maker for Christmas...a moccamaster which we both wanted. (Also bought some nice patio furniture on sale at Yardbird...)

That said, one year we bought each other a front door for our anniversary. And not a bougie front door, just a 9 pane, ha. We aren't big on the gift giving in the parlence of our "Love Language"...
 
LOL.... Love the replies....
She is a very no nonsense type person. I have bought her a dozen roses 2 times... After our son was born... she fussed about it... 2nd set she still has... fake, but still fussed. She rather have something to plant in the ground.
One year my birthday fell on mother's day... I got a lawn mower, she got a weed eater.
We have 2 Anniversary's.... She moved in with me in Jan of 85. Actual wedding was August of 86. For many years we threw a Pig picking with our race team family MLK weekend. I'm talking about folks coming from several states and Canada. In 2005 they all helped me out with surprising her with a renewal of Vows for the 20th. Had even talked with them about doing it again this year but to much else going on.
 
I'm stuck in a rut. I KNOW that DW likes coloring books (not the kind the kiddies use with crayons.) She simply loves to color with gel pens and permanent markers. Her favorite is geometric shapes and 2nd fav is cats. So guess what she gets for anniv?

SO now she has maybe 30 partially filled books and a couple of hundred pens. She's okay with that. YMMV
 
After 51 years of marriage, plus 4 years of dating before then, that's a lot of birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine's days, and Hanukkah (for us) gift decisions. We have everything we want, and if we need something we just buy it. So, it's really tough getting "gifts." Nowadays, we pretty much buy appreciated trinkets, and that suffices. Just last week, I needed to get a new pair of running pants; VOILA! that became my early Valentine's present!
 
My wife's family has always done that thing where they buy their own gifts, to be labeled "from" a sibling or parent or whatever. Since I'm not good at picking out gifts, I'm fine with "Honey, this is what I bought myself for Christmas from you."
 
Each couple has their own style of gift giving and what is important is that it is acceptable to each of them.

DH does bring home flowers frequently, as often as once a week. (When we were first married, he couldn't afford the bouquets and would bring home a single flower or one he picked - I didn't mind!) He tends to buy jewelry for occasions (and once and a while just because) and I tend to buy him gifts related to his hobby which is photography. One "gift" I specifically request - weather depending - is that he drive me to the boardwalk on the beach to watch the sunset.
 
I learned that Ruby is the 40th Anniversary gemstone so that’s what I bought.
 
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