Koolau
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Heh, heh and some of 'em will change our Depends!They’re also paying our Social Security and Medicare. At least for now ..
Heh, heh and some of 'em will change our Depends!They’re also paying our Social Security and Medicare. At least for now ..
I'm guessing you've already enlisted professional help for your daughter. All the best going forward. I hope you reach a good outcome. Blessings.I have two kids: a 29-yr-old son and a 27-yr-old daughter. My son is pretty self-sufficient. He never managed to do college, but he found himself a great job at a local engineering firm. I gifted him the down payment for his first house, and he's done an exceptional job of caring for it, upgrading it, etc. He's honestly a better homeowner than me.
My daughter is more challenging. It's frustrating because she's extremely intelligent, but she has no self-management. It doesn't help that she has mild autism, and that she's trans. She's held a couple of jobs (retail &etc) but never more than a couple of months. It's hella hard to find a job when you have no marketable skills and almost no employment history. For now she's living with me, but I hope I can nudge her out of the nest eventually. But if I kicked her out now, she would be living under a bridge. I don't know what else to do.
Since your daughter has a disability you should make an appointment at your local department or bureau of Vocational Rehabilitation. It’s a state agency that is funded 83% by the federal government and the rest by the state.I have two kids: a 29-yr-old son and a 27-yr-old daughter. My son is pretty self-sufficient. He never managed to do college, but he found himself a great job at a local engineering firm. I gifted him the down payment for his first house, and he's done an exceptional job of caring for it, upgrading it, etc. He's honestly a better homeowner than me.
My daughter is more challenging. It's frustrating because she's extremely intelligent, but she has no self-management. It doesn't help that she has mild autism, and that she's trans. She's held a couple of jobs (retail &etc) but never more than a couple of months. It's hella hard to find a job when you have no marketable skills and almost no employment history. For now she's living with me, but I hope I can nudge her out of the nest eventually. But if I kicked her out now, she would be living under a bridge. I don't know what else to do.
As I tell my 24/21 YO kids, this is the time to have fun, take risks, and do stupid things (but not criminal). Doing those things is what makes one "experienced" and better to learn those lessons in your 20's than later.While I appreciate the sentiment, I'll take a different (and likely controversial) tack. IMO, there's more to "hope for the future" than kids eating $0.65 breakfasts and saving to the point of near obsession. That's our "hope"?
If you're scrimping because you're under-employed, that's one thing.
But I'd hesitate to applaud someone at age 24 depriving herself of some of the really good things in life: international travel, dining at nice places, concerts, cocktails with friends, whatever in order to then live a similar super frugal lifestyle at age 40 just so that you don't have to go to work. Just sounds sad to me.
Two of my young nieces are very well paid and think nothing of flying off somewhere for a long weekend. Almost every long weekend. Yes, they enjoy their jobs, and yes, they are saving for retirement and yes, they will be the ones paying our SS in the future (and picking out our nursing home). But I do believe they have a much better balance of living life and preparing for the future.
Rather than living like a monk in order to avoid answering to the man at age 40, I'd suggest that at age 24, go find a job that's enjoyable, set a goal of retirement maybe just a tad later and get the most out of living. YOLO.
Sure wish I could go back to age 24!