Yes, you have good points about the cost of the college. Especially since her safety school, IIT, would be cheaper and include a $16,000 scholarship! However, I feel good about the decision to let her go to Washington University at St. Louis, because:
1. She's going into biomedical engineering, possible pre-doc. Wash U has one of the top BioMed programs.
2. She already has $3100 in scholarships for the first year, and I'm expecting she'll get at least a few thousand more.
3. She'll borrow about $16,000 in fed subsidized loans.
4. I'll lend her another $9,000 in Dad-subsidized loans (this way she'll end with a $25,000 debt which, adjusted for inflation, is what I had when I finished college).
5. We'll save at least $5,000 per year in tax deductions, driving costs, food costs, sports costs, etc.
6. Going to a prestige school really paid off for me.
7. She's a really smart kid, and works very hard. This school will let her live up to her potential.
8. We only have to put one kid through college.
9. She's the one who will bail us out if our retirement money runs out.