Welcome Supermint!
I haven't followed this conversation, but it sounds like you guys made really good money and let your spending get out of control because of it. I'm sorry to hear you lost your job, going from 268K to 118K sucks, but that's still a good income. My wife and I combined have never earned more than 65K and we are debt free and live quite comfortably. It is possible to get by with less.
I’m to receive about $45k in a small inheritance soon, and I have so many options of where to apply it that I’m just...stuck.
We owe the IRS $750 a month (current balance is $25k), have $11k in credit card debt, a personal loan for $12k (12%i) that I don’t remember why we needed, another loan for $20k that holds my SUV as collateral at 8%, a loan for the top of the line appliances that my husband wanted in the home with a remaining balance of $22k at 9% interest
Personally, I would pay off the IRS first. That's one debtor you don't want to owe money to. After that I would pay off the highest interest debt first, starting with the credit card, and then the personal loan.
Obviously, cut back on your spending and don't add anymore debt. Remember, you have to live on 118K now, not 250K. Build up an emergency fund, then you can focus on saving. Learn to live on the 118K income and if you find a new job you can devote that extra income to paying off your debt and building up your savings.
we do not buy a lot of 'things' or clothes, or whatever people spend their money on.
We have a tractor with a balance of $15k.
We also purchased a vacation club membership for $25k (like a timeshare).
$2500 for a pond pump (the pond was green and slimy!)
$6k for concrete at the shop
$10k in extra closing costs
$6k to pay one of the vendors outside the mortgage
$3k for a new well pump
$7k for shop materials and
$7k for window coverings
I don't mean to judge, but it sounds like you have some expensive tastes. Unless you are a working farm, you don't need a tractor costing more than $15K. You can always rent equipment for the few times you need it. I would sell the tractor and use the money to pay off debt.
Lose the vacation club. It's a bad investment to start with, and a luxury you can't afford.
A slimy pond doesn't sound like a big priority, but I would have rented a pump if it needed to be drained. If it doesn't have a clean source of fresh water it's just gonna slime up again. Long term, it would be cheaper to just fill in the pond.
I'm not sure what the concrete was for, but if it was for a driveway gravel would have worked just as well and cost far less.
And 7K for window coverings on just half the house is crazy. There are MUCH cheaper options available. We installed blinds on our entire house for less than $1500.
You don't always have to give up the things you want, but you do need to find cheaper alternatives. For example, an inflatable or above ground pool would be just as much fun as an in ground pool, but would cost a whole lot less.
Learn to do things yourself. For example, sew your own curtains instead of paying those ridiculous prices. It's more work, but you'll appreciate the final product a lot more.
Don't buy anything you can't pay cash for. You might have to wait a few months to get what you're wanting, but have patience until you can save up to get it.
It's going to take an adjustment in your lifestyle but you can certainly dig your way out of this and start saving for retirement. Good luck! Keep us updated.